AIBU- do I give him another chance?

[Marmitelover93]

I have just recently moved into a flat with my boyfriend (renting) and our relationship is generally great. However, when it comes to the weekend or when he goes out for drinks he ends up taking drugs which upsets me. He knows this as most of the time he lies about it or keeps it from me. But I always find out. This is the part that hurts. This has happened around 4 times in the last two/three months resulting in an argument the next day and him promising he won’t do it again. But I just feel stuck as we have literally just moved in and can’t get out for another few months at least. He says it’s just him having fun with his friends and that he should be allowed to do that which I understand but it feels as though it’s extremely immature. What would you do in this situation? Give him yet ANOTHER chance? Or end it?

Only you know that if it's a deal-breaker for you. It sounds as though he won't stop using drugs and will lie to you about it as he knows you disapprove. Do you see a long term future for you both where he continues to use drugs as its unlikely he will stop and likely that he will continue to lie about it (and that would also make me wonder what else would he like about)

He hides his behaviour.
He lies to you.
He breaks promises.
He/you argue about this.

Life is too short for this. End it.

What exactly is it you want to give him one more chance about? You’ve made it clear to him how much him taking drugs is a no for you, and he’s made it clear to you through his continued use of drugs that him taking drugs is more important than your objections. The choice is yours, but that’s the reality, that has always been the reality and it will continue to be the reality until such time as he decides it isn’t, but clearly you have no power over that decision.

Well, if you do decide to stay with him-do not fall pregnant and do not share a bank account with him.
I'd be wary about his recreational use becoming a habit. He may end up in debt, not pay his share of rent/bills and may end up taking credit in your name as well as stealing from you in other ways.

He does drugs. You dont like it. Your not compatible

I put YABU only because you’re expecting his behaviour to change. It’s unlikely. He is immature and lying to you as if you’re a parent.

You need to decide whether you can put up with drug taking & lies or whether you want more/better.

End it