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Hand hold- i feel so let down by everyone

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Appletarte · 01/10/2022 22:30

Sorry, I’ve posted before. I just feel so shit tonight and needed to get this off my chest.

I’ve had bad period symptoms for over 10 years. Just for context, I had around 4-5 periods in 2021, with a huge total of 18 days of bleeding.

over the last 10 years, the only investigation I’ve had for this was one single hormone blood test. Because the results were fine, I was told there was nothing wrong with me and my periods were completely normal.

In some ways I loved not having periods, but I always felt like something wasn’t right and it concerned me. I’ve had other problems like excess hair, spots and really bad headaches when my period would have been due. I was told it was all normal.

We have a family history of ovarian cancer too and I knew it wouldn’t be anything serious like that, but upon advice on here I decided to book a private scan, because I wanted reassurance everything was ok. Sure enough, she said it’s PCOS. The same thing I was told several times I definitely don’t have. And that I couldn’t have because I’m too young. Or I couldn’t have because I’m not overweight. That thing I didn’t have, sure enough, I saw it for myself on the screen.

I’m NOT annoyed at the medical staff I spoke to who concerned my symptoms and felt it was normal. They had a call to make and I’m not annoyed at them because they treated me with respect and genuinely thought it was normal. But I am so, so annoyed at the staff whom dismissed me and made me feel hysterical about it, or who acted as if i was worrying about nothing and basically told me to stop being silly because ‘everyone has different periods’

when I think about the years I spent crying in the mirror because of my noticeable moustache, hairy chin, side burns and hairy neck (that was waxed just 24 hours before) I just feel heartbroken. I couldn’t wear the same clothes as my friends because my tummy and chest get too hairy and there’s obvious stubble. Or the times I got caught out with my period restarting randomly for the first time in 6 months and I couldn’t predict because it was so irregular. I thought I was a freak and not a normal girl and I hated my body so fucking much.

why the fuck in 2022 are woman’s issues still not taken seriously

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akabluebell · 01/10/2022 22:34

I feel for you, and it sounds as though you have had a shit time.

In answer to your question, female health care is so poor probably because generally medicine and research historically has been dominated by males. We need to raise our voices much louder and shout it from the rooftops. We shouldn't have to but there it is.

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