DH wants to do his own thing but we have 2 kids

[Birdie002]

Me & DH both different cultures. My culture is very male macho and women are more inferior to men (disgusting I know), and his culture is the opposite.

Since having our DC2 he has completely changed in his attitude and his actions. I lost 2 previous babies and we tried for a while to have another baby and we discussed all this and he was well aware. He says he wants to do his own thing and he's not made for this and that I wanted this (as in kids) which in his translation means I should do everything.

His excuse for everything is oh I don't know and you know better but I've said I didn't know either but I learned.

I feel the way he is treating me is really unfair and it feels like I am doing everything on my own while I have a grown ass man just wondering around the house. I make all the food, do all the cleaning, childcare and get basically 0 time for me.

I get angrier each day I look at him and he makes comments that men in my family don't get treated this way and that I shouldn't basically ask him to look after the baby etc.

I could go on and on and on but I'd be here all day

[Hymnulop]

Just ditch him, claim CMS and enjoy life.

[Paparazzicrap]

Leave now.

[MolliciousIntent]

Tell him to get fucked, put a claim in for maintenance and enjoy your freedom from all that festering resentment.

[MsFrog]

@MolliciousIntent

Tell him to get fucked, put a claim in for maintenance and enjoy your freedom from all that festering resentment.

This with bells on!

[Silly35]

It sounds like he has seen you and your family/culture as an easy life choice, thinking he will be treated like a king.

He needs to be informed that you did not marry him for this life.

[Birdie002]

@Silly35

It sounds like he has seen you and your family/culture as an easy life choice, thinking he will be treated like a king.

He needs to be informed that you did not marry him for this life.

It is exactly this.

I disagree with how my culture is and men are not some kings that women should bow down to.

Ive told him you have daughters and it's not setting a good example

[BatshitBanshee]

Ive told him you have daughters and it's not setting a good example

So set a better example and take him to the cleaners. Useless oaf.

[AccountDeactivated]

What did you want from the thread? Did you have a question or anything?

Divorce him without a second thought.

[Hawkins001]

Once you have kids, the freedom ship has sailed.
all the best and positivity op

[errnerrcallnernnernnern]

Leave, leave, leave. Don’t let him pretend to the world he is a married family man at your hard work’s expense.

[SMabbutt]

Tell him it sounds like he's looking for an unpaid servant but you never applied for that job and slavery was abolished a long time ago. However, if he wants a wife then you could be interested in staying provided he is prepared to be an equal partner in the relationship and pull his weight.

[Hankunamatata]

Urgh my friends husbands did this even though he pushed for babies - turned into an utter manchild and thought everything was her job to do with home and kids despite both working full time. She saw the light, moved out and forced house sale.

[Herejustforthisone]

Bin him. Useless, lazy prick. I do not understand how men can switch off from their children like that. Hideous.

Are you from a travelling community? I knew a girl who married into it and who really struggled with it for the reasons you have alluded to.

[IDidntKnowItWasAParty]

What's to decide OP? Just leave him, he's a dickhead

[Namenic]

He sounds v lazy. Would you want your daughters married to someone like this? My sympathies to you.

[itwasntmetho]

Really unattractive.