Facebook/friend

[NYLass1980]

AIBU to have expected someone I have become close to accept my friend request on Facebook. She totally blanked it.
We work for the same company on the same level. She said sge likes to keep work and facebook separate but I keep seeing her as friends with current colleagues.
I wouldn't mind if we hadn't been as close and she messages/calls me often usually for support.
It appears she wa ts to keep work and facebook separate but not me as a confidant and work separate?
I have asked her why and she says I'm wrong to ask.
I can't help feeling she doesn't consider me a real friend if she knows this hurts me and only contact me when she needs me.

I wonder whether she added work colleagues out of politeness in the past, and therefore doesn’t want to delete them, but has decided not to add anyone else?

If you get on and you like chatting to her, I’d just assume she uses Facebook differently to you and forget about it. If, on the other hand, you feel like she expects support from you, but offers nothing in return, pull back and keep it strictly professional.

If you met someone and became close but they did not have a Facebook account would it make you feel less close?

But the OP’s colleague does have a Facebook account. So this hypothetical scenario isn’t really relevant. It’s not possible to get upset about not being added to a non-existent friend list.