AIBU not to know how to sign off on a card to son and partner?

[VioletSky1234]

Silly question I know, but my son and his partner have moved in together. I want to send a card/flowers but how do I write the sign off on the card..From mum (I am not very close to his partner as they haven’t known each other long) or my name? Or mum (and my actual name in brackets?).

As they haven’t known each other long this hasn’t come up before!

Please help 😀

Mum

I think either just "mum" , as to be fair they probably won't read into it too much, or even "from Mum/Violetsky". I'm sure that's what my mum did. Tricky, but neither is really wrong.

I think mum is fine as your son will recognise your writing and then from his partner's point of view it'll be nice that you included them

I would sign with mum ☺️

I'd go Mum/Name.

I'd just say mum

Though my Xmas cards are all to son and partner or daughter and partner so saying mum and dad makes more sense there.

Any birthday card to me from in laws says names not mum and dad.

Mum is fine.

I would put "Mum/VioletSky"

From your future MIL????

My mum and MIL always put ‘Mum’ on cards that are to both of us a couple.

Card for me from MIL says Love Janet. Card to us both says Love Mom. I'd think it quite odd to write Mom / Janet as if I couldn't figure out she wasn't trying to adopt me

It’s to her son and his partner, not just the partner

I always put Mum on anything that's for both of them and my name if its something solely for the DC's partner

MIL who doesn't like me puts "Mum (Mary)". PILs who I get on OK with just put "Mum and Dad".

Not saying that it's a universal indicator of how much you like your SIL or DIL. Just a personal observation from my extended family.

I was with my ex for 5 years. First three years his mum bought me a separate Christmas card. All 4 christmases I knew his adult son, he never wrote my name on his dad's Xmas cards or ever bought me a birthday card. Dont make your son's partner feel like they made me. Sign off the card like you would normally for your son with maybe a /(your name), even if you don't know her well, trust me she'll appreciate it.

Am I the only one wondering why he's moving in with someone he barely knows?

I moved in with now DH 4 months after meeting. I'm sure his Mom considered us to not know each other very well. A decade and three kids later, turns out it turned out fine

(I am not very close to his partner as they haven’t known each other long)
Obviously your DS feels this is a committed relationship if they are moving in together. I would go with Mum and not alienate your potential future DIL.

My MIL used to sign joint cards Mum / her name until we got married then it was just Mum. I always thought it was odd😂
‘My mum signed joint cards with the nickname everyone called her - including us. Cards just to me were signed Ma.

My mum and my partner's mum always just write "from Mum". Similarly we'll write "to mum" on birthday cards signed from us both. It's a bit funny when I think about it but everyone knows what's meant. I wouldn't overthink it.

My DM writes “Love from Mum/name/Grandma” in every card she sends us. It’s even more ridiculous when they’re also from “Dad/name/Grandad” 🤦🏼‍♀️

'Mum'. That's what my MIL does and what my mum does on cards that she sends us. His gran writes 'gran' too.

Mum

My partner finds it odd I don't include his name in mother and Father's Day cards (though I do on birthday cards to parents and Xmas)

But if the card says you are the best dad in the world, it's odd he would also sign it (as he has a perfectly nice dad too). His cards say "happy Father's Day" so more generic so more sense him including me (though I still think it's odd)

In our family it’s always listing all the names someone is known by to the people the card is being sent to so eg Mum/Gran/name and Dad/Grandad/Name

We have to address them in the same way.

DH’s family just use their first names for everyone, never mum/dad, granny/grandpa etc.