AIBU

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Recently separated with DH and have kid together. Was initially amicable, however since I've found out there's someone else involved (think pics on phone under guys name so 99% sure) it's not been, things ordered nothing to do with me etc.

Naturally I'm devastated. I've told his family however he continues to deny it. No concrete prof as such but more than enough red flags for it not to be. Now been painted as the bad once although he cannot give any reasonable answer as to why she's in there under a guys name

AIBU to feel I may have made a mistake and actually feel bad for accusing him of this?

Also, I pleaded with him continually to spend time with him as family or just the 2 of us, his evenings and weekends were spent with friends or at the pub, towards the end he even started staying overnight with his friends on the Saturday. Minimum effort involved with me or our kid, and no communication when he was out. Am I right in looking back now and thinking that I got the bare minimum, or was I asking too much? I was constantly on his back about not putting us first and now i feel really bad about it and that I pushed him away

I strongly suspect you're instincts are correct. There is someone else in the picture.

Try to focus on yourself and the DC from now. Don't question what happened or whether you could have done anything differently. It won't change the current situation. You need to nurture yourself and the children. Lick your wounds and find a way to start looking to how bright your future could be.

Thank you @Gazelda, I'm really trying but it's hellish tbh. I'm in a really bad place and getting counselling.

Trying to think ahead though and for future relationships, was what I wanted too much? I don't know if I was too demanding and don't want to make that mistake moving forward

No you didn’t want too much- you just got involved with a man child It’s upsetting for now but you are better off without him.