To worry about DS going to his Dad's?

[Rayrayra]

DS8 sees his dad regularly and they have a fairly good relationship. I have a few concerns and I was hoping to get an impartial view on whether I should bring them up with my ex (which will no doubt cause an explosion!).

In a nutshell, DS8 has just got back from 3 days at his Dad's. The whole time he was there he didn't have a wash, brush his teeth, was woken up at 5am every morning by his younger step brother, and had to share a bed with his 11 year old step sister.

He's exhausted, grumpy and clearly struggled at school. This is a regular occurrence. Would I be unreasonable to bring this up?

I don’t think you should avoid issues like this because you don’t want to upset your ex. Your main priority needs to be your DS.

Does he wants to go to his Dads?

Just message and say DS says he hasn't been washing or cleaning his teeth can he give him a nudge please.

I'd come down a bit firmer on the sleeping arrangements- it's not appropriate.

Being woken by a younger sibling is just standard and up to dad to put a stop to it if he's bothered.

Are you sure what he is telling you is correct? Sharing a bed seems odd.

@19lottie82 He does, but he doesn't like the chaos when he's there (lots of kids, noise, not much routine).

@LIZS DS isn't one to lie really. They used to share a bed but that stopped, although it looks like it might have started up again.