To be getting REALLY FED UP with people not putting children's feelings before their own?

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Why oh why oh why? it must be PMT as i am getting really ratty about it!!!

"I wont pick up the LO that has fallen down in case the mum shouts at me" who cares as long as the child is ok?

"I wont tell my friend her child is belting mine to high heaven every time we meet, just in case she's annoyed with me" eh?

am i missing something? Why do our feelings or possible embarrasment (sp) comes before looking out for little ones?

Kinda agree but thsoe feelings of embarassment etc might for some more confrontational people be very real and dramatic and not so easy toovercome.

For me, it was a bit of a turning point in dealing with certain school people etc when it occurred to me that the fact I hated the stress etc was less relevant than ky kids needs for X, Y or Z- but soem poeple are just too shy for it to be so easily overcome

Well I agree with you on the examples you have given but generally I find it extremely irritating when people are overly sensitive to their children's feeling and won't discipline them because they don't want to 'upset' them and they want them to be their best friends

Glad to know I'm not the only one with PMT.

I did exactly that at the beginnig of the week.

A friend's Lo did that to My DS he pushed him into the road. On purpose! I said NO to the child, and promptly told his mum.
I've been feeling shitty ever since!

Sorry for the RANT (I'll just go away and keep myself to myself).

i hate confrontation and lots of people are very aggresive, as long as the child is not seriously injured i leave it to the parents.
i personally see it as kindness to help but so many people dont, its really sad.

Well, I don't think that a child's feelings should necessarily always be put first. Learning to consider the feelings of others (inc mummy and daddy) is an important part of childhood/growing up imo.

BUT the examples you give would piss me off too - so YANBU.

FWIW I have always picked up hurt kids etc, and have stepped in to halt fights and have never had any flak from parents. Maybe I live in an enclave of peace and harmony - or maybe its my scarey demeanor

Why have you been feeling shitty about that? Children have to learn right from wrong. If anyone saw my DD pushing another child into the road I would hope that they would tell her off and then tell me.

The more people are precious about not telling children off (when necessary) the more problem children we are raising.

i thikn human relationships and dynamics are not that simple

and if you are perceived to be criticising someone else's parenting skills,then that can lead to big trouble

Thanks all for your interesting replies

BTBM - Oh goodness, people being overly sensitive to their own kids so not telling them off, no it's not that kind of thing i mean. Kids dont want us as "best friends", they want us as parents i agree 100% with you there.

Skay you did the right thing and i bet your friend's child wont do that again! Dont feel bad

But lulumama -that's my point. If your child is being hurt by my child and I am not doing a thing about it then my parenting skills ARE questionable and even if i am annoyed I should be told. Would you be so scared of my reaction to you saying something that you would let your child continue to be hurt?

Shucks, have to go off to work now!! Be nice to me in my absence or my mum will get yer