DH and I are both quite close to our own extended families (aunts, uncles, cousins). Neither family is huge on its own but together the families are 38 people, as opposed to 15 people in our joint immediate families (parents and siblings).
Growing up, our whole extended families were invited to all events - birthdays, weddings, christenings etc, and we automatically invited them to our wedding in 2019. However we now have DC and are finding it too difficult and expensive to continue inviting the whole wider family to DC’s occasions. We ended up spending double what we wanted to on the christening reception for DC1 even though we didn’t do anything fancy or extravagant, just on the amount of food and drink (and space) needed for that many people. Our aunts and uncles are now getting elderly so they need a comfy place to sit and good heating, so that rules out parks and the like and we can’t really fit them all in our house, even for a buffet style lunch.
we do really like our aunts and uncles and don’t want to offend them by suddenly stopping the invites but equally we feel the events for DC should now just be attended by DC’s aunts, uncles and cousins rather than ours, IYSWIM. Plus we’d like to invite friends but never have enough space for them. The christening for DC2 is coming up, which has prompted this question.
Has anyone else been in the same situation? How did you handle it?
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Movingsoon21 · 30/09/2022 10:06
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