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it's daft to think parents with kids in private school have money to burn?

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Popgoestheweaselagain · 29/09/2022 13:04

Just got asked by my school what would be the impact if they had to pay VAT, adding 20% to fees. My response was 'I'd try to keep my child in the school, but ....'. I think almost all parents would respond this way. Alarmed, did a quick google, and found this is Labour policy. Next time they come knocking at my door looking for my vote, I'll be telling them why they can't have it!

Now, I understand why some people are ideologically opposed to private schools, the unfariness etc. But when I hear this argument that goes something like 'Those people must have loads of money because they send their kids to private school' it kind of annoys me. Money is finite. If you've spent all your money on school fees, you obviously don't have it anymore!

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ColonelCarter · 29/09/2022 18:55

Our private school fees, including wrap around are the same cost as if I sent them to the local state school and paid for wrap around care - about £125 per week. Which is why we chose it.

If the school started charging vat we couldn't afford it, so would have to revert to state school and pay the wrap around costs, which I'm assuming either already charge vat or wouldn't do still? Lots of parents at our school are in the same boat, I don't know how the local state schools would cope to be honest, they're already massively over subscribed (32 in the infant classes).

Doingprettywellthanks · 29/09/2022 18:57

ColonelCarter · 29/09/2022 18:55

Our private school fees, including wrap around are the same cost as if I sent them to the local state school and paid for wrap around care - about £125 per week. Which is why we chose it.

If the school started charging vat we couldn't afford it, so would have to revert to state school and pay the wrap around costs, which I'm assuming either already charge vat or wouldn't do still? Lots of parents at our school are in the same boat, I don't know how the local state schools would cope to be honest, they're already massively over subscribed (32 in the infant classes).

That’s an incredibly cheap private school!!

ColonelCarter · 29/09/2022 19:05

Doingprettywellthanks · 29/09/2022 18:57

That’s an incredibly cheap private school!!

It is.

But it's not exceptional around here. 4 of the 6 local privates are under £6k a year.

SeagullSausage · 29/09/2022 19:06

absolutelyanythingwilldo · 29/09/2022 17:29

The examples you gave of the NHS and pensions are where it's unknown how much of the service (and therefore the cost) will be in advance and can vary wildly through circumstances beyond the individuals control. These are areas which are rightly socialised.

Education is a fixed amount provided and is done so because the state expects a return on the investment as productive workers in 15 years time. If a parent saves the state that cost and on top of that produces a better educated worker then the suggestion that the parent should be rebated is perfectly reasonable.

Per child ..so do you rebate people who only have a certain amount of children, don't have children? Home educated children? How about children who need additional support or special schools? Charge them more?

Absolutely ridiculous and not in any way how taxation and the public services sector operates.

Antarcticant · 29/09/2022 19:23

MaybeIWillFuckOffThen · 29/09/2022 18:40

There are inequalities that can be controlled for (food poverty and its impact on educational attainment for example) and those that can't (parental education level and its impact on attainment for example). We can certainly work towards eliminating the option for some kids to be provided with a significantly better educational experience (within an institution that by its very existence has a negative impact on the state system) simply because their parents have more money.

I just don't think it's reasonable to shrug and say "life's not fair, so what" for poor kids any more than it was when e.g. public transport was completely inaccessible to the disabled. We have a responsibility to try an break down barriers and level up inequalities. I find it amazing that some people really think life should be a lottery of birth and devil take the hindmost - even when the hindmost are disadvantaged CHILDREN.

I agree with Maybel and that certainly doesn't come from jealousy - as a childfree person I 'have no skin in this game' so to speak. I would just like to see a more equal society.

Ministryofbiscuits · 29/09/2022 19:24

Next time they come knocking at my door looking for my vote, I'll be telling them why they can't have it!

In view of the horrendous actions of this government in the past week, if VAT on private school fees is the crux of how you cast of your vote, then I can't say I have much sympathy for you.

Popgoestheweaselagain · 29/09/2022 19:33

Ministryofbiscuits · 29/09/2022 19:24

Next time they come knocking at my door looking for my vote, I'll be telling them why they can't have it!

In view of the horrendous actions of this government in the past week, if VAT on private school fees is the crux of how you cast of your vote, then I can't say I have much sympathy for you.

which horrendous actions? You need to be more specific. The plans to cut tax for the lowest earners? The government contribution towards this winter's heating bills? I think they're planning pretty well, actually.

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TheHateIsNotGood · 29/09/2022 19:34

Thanks GaspO I couldn't be arsed to check. So Klaxon Alert people - Keir Starmer wasn't privately educated he went to a State Grammar.

Getting yer facts right is usually the best basis.

Aria999 · 29/09/2022 19:38

@Plantstrees thanks, can't believe I missed that about the VAT vs corporation tax!

However it looks like labour manifesto is to do both: (the guardian):

Last week, the Labour party voted in favour of new policies that would strip private schools of charitable status, add VAT to fees, restrict their pupils’ access to higher education and redistribute their endowments, investments and properties to the state sector.

lannistunut · 29/09/2022 19:39

Popgoestheweaselagain · 29/09/2022 19:33

which horrendous actions? You need to be more specific. The plans to cut tax for the lowest earners? The government contribution towards this winter's heating bills? I think they're planning pretty well, actually.

HAHAHAHAHA planning pretty well, actually

Yougov latest: only 37% of people who voted Tory in 2019 say they are certain to vote for them again. Labour have a 33% lead.
Tory MPs are currently threatening not to vote for the mini budget bollocks.
Mortgages are going to rise by far more than will be saved with the energy help.
Pensions nearly collapsed.

planning pretty well, actually HAHAHAHAHA

Ministryofbiscuits · 29/09/2022 19:40

Popgoestheweaselagain · 29/09/2022 19:33

which horrendous actions? You need to be more specific. The plans to cut tax for the lowest earners? The government contribution towards this winter's heating bills? I think they're planning pretty well, actually.

Unless you have been living under a stone for the past week, I would hope that you would be aware of the mini-budget blatantly skewed to benefit the very wealthy when there is a full blown cost of living crisis with families at real risk of hunger, freezing and potential homelessness, all of which has just been made worse by a collapsing pound.

Aria999 · 29/09/2022 19:41

@Ministryofbiscuits I don't think the collapsing pound is a coincidence. Investors think the government has lost the plot.

Ministryofbiscuits · 29/09/2022 19:41

No, @Aria999, investors and the IMF KNOW that the government has lost the plot.

WantToKnowAnswers · 29/09/2022 19:44

Keir Starmer wasn't privately educated he went to a State Grammar

So, its not OK to pay for a private school, but it is OK to move to a Grammar area and pay over the odds for property to be in catchment, and then tutor your DC like there is no tomorrow to get them in?

That's what Grammar school parents resort to.

lannistunut · 29/09/2022 19:48

WantToKnowAnswers · 29/09/2022 19:44

Keir Starmer wasn't privately educated he went to a State Grammar

So, its not OK to pay for a private school, but it is OK to move to a Grammar area and pay over the odds for property to be in catchment, and then tutor your DC like there is no tomorrow to get them in?

That's what Grammar school parents resort to.

No, grammars are an outdated anachronism, but Starmer was 11 when his parents made that choice. The Labour party has been opposed to grammars for a very long time.

Starmer is very bright. He would have been in the top set of a comprehensive or in a grammar. It would not have impacted his options for University given when he went.

pigcon1 · 29/09/2022 19:48

The only thing that will achieve is to push, sharp elbowed middle income people to the best primary and secondary’s available, to do what sharp elbowed people know how to do best, seems like a bit of a own goal (but if that’s what people really want).

lannistunut · 29/09/2022 19:49

lannistunut · 29/09/2022 19:48

No, grammars are an outdated anachronism, but Starmer was 11 when his parents made that choice. The Labour party has been opposed to grammars for a very long time.

Starmer is very bright. He would have been in the top set of a comprehensive or in a grammar. It would not have impacted his options for University given when he went.

And they didn;t move to a grammar area, or tutor him, as far as I am aware - they just happened to have a child when grammars schools existed in their area.

Couldyounot · 29/09/2022 19:51

Loving all the "well I'm certainly not going to vote Labour now!" comments, as if those making them were ever going to 🤣

This is a problem that simply won't resonate with the vast majority of people, who are more concerned about mortgage rates, utilities and general cost of living.

It's also worth saying that private does not by any means automatically equate to better. I was privately educated (latterly on a 20% scholarship) at very well-regarded schools and it was, to be frank, a complete waste of my parents' money (and the same went for most of my cohort's parents too). There was a comment upthread about knives and drugs - yep, we had all that and a rampant bullying problem, exacerbated by living in. That school is now charging basic fees which are nudging £40k a year, which is madness.

By contrast with my experience, my eldest went to the local Catholic comp, got all the enrichment anyone could want completely free of charge, and absolutely smashed it with his GCSEs this year, far better results than I managed. That should be the standard, shouldn't it?

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 29/09/2022 19:51

TheHateIsNotGood · 29/09/2022 19:34

Thanks GaspO I couldn't be arsed to check. So Klaxon Alert people - Keir Starmer wasn't privately educated he went to a State Grammar.

Getting yer facts right is usually the best basis.

Grin Refreshing honesty! Every time I think I can't be bothered to check I make some huge clanger.

sleezeandwineparty · 29/09/2022 19:52

robertpaulson · 29/09/2022 13:12

I don't understand why people want more children burdening the state system.

Because they will not be a burden on the state system.
What would happen is most parents would find the VAT.
Private education is a luxury.

MarshaBradyo · 29/09/2022 19:53

Couldyounot · 29/09/2022 19:51

Loving all the "well I'm certainly not going to vote Labour now!" comments, as if those making them were ever going to 🤣

This is a problem that simply won't resonate with the vast majority of people, who are more concerned about mortgage rates, utilities and general cost of living.

It's also worth saying that private does not by any means automatically equate to better. I was privately educated (latterly on a 20% scholarship) at very well-regarded schools and it was, to be frank, a complete waste of my parents' money (and the same went for most of my cohort's parents too). There was a comment upthread about knives and drugs - yep, we had all that and a rampant bullying problem, exacerbated by living in. That school is now charging basic fees which are nudging £40k a year, which is madness.

By contrast with my experience, my eldest went to the local Catholic comp, got all the enrichment anyone could want completely free of charge, and absolutely smashed it with his GCSEs this year, far better results than I managed. That should be the standard, shouldn't it?

If it’s a waste of money let more people pay twice

Tax and fees.

Fine lower pressure on state

Ministryofbiscuits · 29/09/2022 19:54

Surely grammar schools are no more of an outdated anachronism than selective private schools?
A very good state sector for everyone would be a far more progressive education model.

Gindrinker43 · 29/09/2022 19:55

I don’t send my DC to a small local private school because we have loads of excess income, I send them because every local high school is failing and we have some of the worst GCSE results in the country here. One if my DC is dyslexic and got no support in the state system. We are not well off and have to manage. Small private schools will suffer and so will the children forced back in to failing state schools.

Lcb123 · 29/09/2022 19:56

VAT is charged on non essentials. Private school is non essential.

Theillustratedmummy · 29/09/2022 20:02

For those who said they are against private school because it gives children a bad attitude or causes competition and using Boris as an example are ridiculous. Not all independent schools are like this. They are not all Eton. The 2 I know about are nurturing, holistic and teach values I agree with. I'm a social worker and spend my whole week supporting, advocating and working for those who are less advantaged and struggling. I send my child to private school because state school cannot look after her. If you as parents won't send your children to private school because of your principles I think you are being very short sighted. Have you actually ever looked round a small private school. Even with these beliefs and principles do you not want the best for your child that your money can buy. Its not an attitude I can understand. When so many are struggling it is absolutely a privilege I agree. Id do anything for fairness and equality, that's why I became a social worker, but this VAT will not benefit the most in need, it will line the pockets of the uber elite. Also SEN children who are already disadvantaged will suffer more.

Most posters on MN have never known true inequality. Its easy to sit on your high horse when your children thrive in state school and you live in the catchment of a decent school.

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