I am currently pregnant and am going to speak to my midwife about an Elective/maternal choice c-section. This is our first child. My DP is completely supportive of my choice. I am choosing ELCS because of a history sexual abuse and I feel an ELCS will make me feel in more control.
Only my DP knows about the history. My DM is a midwife she is very strong minded and vocal about her view on ELCSs being wrong and selfish. At this stage DM has no idea that I am considering an ELCS at this stage
DM is really excited about my pregnancy and is already giving me lots of helpful advice generally .I am worried to broach the subject of ELCS with DM I guess my worry is that she and wider family will judge my decision and if I tell DM I am going to have an ELCS she will go full-on to try and convince me that ELCS is wrong and that I'm being selfish.
DP and I are considering not telling anyone about ELCS plans and date until after the birth.
but my DM may be very upset by us springing the birth on her and having not been truthful.
Am I being unreasonable to keep it a secret? What would you do in this situation? Any advise is greatly appreciated. I can't see a clear answer at the moment but know my feelings of fear and guilt may be clouding my judgement xx
AIBU: To not tell anyone our ELCS date? TW sexual assault
Radikka · 28/09/2022 19:48
Am I being unreasonable?
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