Dumped again then the marriage chat

[Slakooths]

DP has form for "leaving" me if an argument gets heated or goes on.
I'm frankly tired of it, we have 2 DC together and have been together for 7 years.
So due to the frequency of this happening, I have little to no reaction.

This makes him mad as he says I dont care and have no emotion. He'll say we're over, nothing changes, then life goes on as normal for a few days, then he seemingly "forgets " he said we were done and if I bring it up, says he thought we resolved that when the argument was resolved.

Days later he'll casually chat about how he wants to propose!

I never "end it" with him. We are adults, if he says it again AIBU to just say okay, bye then?

YANBU 👋 bye

YABU deeper issues here

I think you called him on it and he is shocked your not doing the I love you dance.
Tell him that he has proved he isn't the man you thought he was, that HE will need to do far better or you will be the one who walks.

How embarrassing for you to have clung on to this losers ankle for 7 years. More importantly, what a toxic, damaging childhood to inflict on your kids, how will you mitigate the damage you’ve both chosen to cause them? How will you teach them about basic decency, what a relationship is meant to be, since you both can’t show by example?

I did this! He was utterly, utterly shocked and still painted it to others as me leaving him because he broke up with me and I actually got on with life as a single parent.

He left and said he wasn’t coming back. So I looked up my benefit entitlement. All ducks firmly in row. Started packing his stuff. Locked the door behind him.

He came back all surprised pikachu face that since he broke up with me … we were no longer in a relationship.

I was so much happier when he left.

I am biased because this is a hard boundary for me. If you say you are leaving, we are done. That’s it. Over.

When people say the relationship is over (then they get cold feet and stay) it’s either because that’s what they want OR it’s a manipulation tactic. Neither of those things makes me want to be with a person.

I would end this myself tbh.

I married one that did this. Twat. Took me a long time, but I eventually took him at his word. It was such a relief to get rid of the idiot.