Pet name preferential treatment

[Pompomqueen]

So probably a bit silly but I met my friend this morning with our LO'S for an activity (won't say what as outing) and the lady running the class nstantly started saying 'no problem my lovely' 'of course hun' 'do what feel sweetheart' 'looks amazing babe' to my friend and when referring or talking to me didn't use any of these friendly type of pet names. It was a one on one session no other mums.

Usually this wouldn't bother me but it was so glaringly obvious how differently we were treated.

For context I was being smiley and polite with her and my friend was too but if anything a bit flustered and less smiley.

Just made me feel a bit rubbish and also embarrassed if my friend picked up on it.

Has she met your friend before? If she hasn't, she might just be trying to be friendly. Or if she's actually known her for ages, maybe that's why.

Or maybe she couldn't remember her actual name. Or maybe she has a different kind of rapport with your friend - not better or worse, just different.

It doesn't mean she likes your friend more. It's perfectly possible she likes her less, and is over-compensating. I have a work contact who calls me 'honey' every other sentence, but (and I know this for a fact) she doesn't much like working with me as we have very different personalities and views, and I believe she also knows I know that. I'm pretty sure the 'honey' thing in her case is a subconscious attempt to cover up any awkwardness.

I reckon you're over-thinking this one. Don't worry about it for another second!

Is there an obvious difference between you and your friend?

Tbh I’d assume she’d forgotten your friends name unless there was actual obvious differences in the way she was treating you both.

@10hailmarys no never met either one of us before.

Perhaps you are right. I would say she had no better rapport as had just met for the first time. Maybe it was a way to feel more connected to her. It just felt like favouritism and I felt a bit left out at the time.

Thanks for talking me down 😁