Husband didn't block other woman

[justinekems]

My best friend's husband had an affair for 8 months with his longtime friend. Apparently he is refusing to block her (the OW) after she asked stating the friendship is of importance given the length of time they have been friends, but has offered an open phone policy and proof of no contact. I don't think it's unreasonable for her to ask that he cut contact/block forever? I guess this is triggering for me having gone through something similar and in my case; my (now ex) husband just got sneakier about his shady ways.

I know you didn't say that, I was drawing a comparison.

I really, really don't think it's "controlling" to expect your husband to not contact your affair partner. It's not a black and white issue, there are plenty of reasons why you could reasonably expect your partner not to contact somebody.

*HIS affair partner, not yours.

It sounds like he prioritises the OW. He's probably waiting for her to text him again.

Does he have Snapchat?

He could be hiding the app. My friend noticed her husband had Snapchat (she downloaded it too and it said he had an account!).... she knew it was active as he frequently changed his little Snapchat Avatar.

She added him while he was drunk once and his snap score was very very high which implied there had been a lot of photos shared with someone....

It was the OW from the year before. They'd been secretly chatting via Snapchat and Signal while supposedly "no contact".