How much fuss would you make over this?

[Sapphire387]

DS has lately started Year 7. First food tech class. He has told me that another boy was waving a sharp knife at people and wouldn't stop when asked. My understanding is that he didn't approach anyone but was more... gesticulating with it, in a threatening kind of way? Another teacher was called and the boy was removed from the class and not seen for the rest of the day.

I've emailed DS' form tutor to say I am concerned about what he has told me, and asked what steps have been taken / will be taken.

AIBU to be quite disturbed by this? (YANBU) Am I overreacting? (YABU)

School have dealt with it though. What they have done isn’t something you need to know

Another teacher was called and the boy was removed from the class and not seen for the rest of the day

I wouldn't make any fuss. Sounds like the school dealt with it and you have no right to know what steps they have taken.

The boy was taken out of class - looks very much like the school has already dealt with it

They removed the child from the class. What more do you want them to do? Why do you think they are not acting? Why do you think you should be informed of any actions they might take?

You know what steps were taken. He was removed from class and either sent home or kept in isolation for the rest of the day.
Are you holding out for a full court martial??

I suppose I think I should be informed because... my child was in a room with someone aggressively waving a knife around and I'd like a reassurance that he isn't going to be put at risk. Same way as if someone in my office was waving a knife around, I'd want to know what was going to be done about it.

But I expect you are right, they did act and hopefully they have the right steps in place.

School have dealt with it, the kid was probably just being a dick.

If your child was the one who was at the centre of the incident would you want every other child and parent in the class being given details?

OP do you mean you want to know how school will make sure it doesn't happen again?

YABU

You're being extraordinarily unreasonable

I attended a school where people carried knives. I would not be worrying about the food tech knives. I would worry about the unknown knives.

Not sure that is helpful of me, but you are worrying about something that has been resolved.

Yep

@MaverickSnoopy yes, this. I didn't go 'all guns blazing' (noted re: another poster's comment about a court martial!).

How do you propose a school ensures that a kid doesn't act like a twat in food tech?

They won't be able to promise or ensure this doesn't happen again, and odds are worse will happen over the next few years whilst your child is at secondary

You need to start collecting grips, you'll need them to survive until yr10!

They've dealt with it. I wouldn't do anything.

He'll probably get a few days exclusion and possibly banned from cookery lessons. If he'd waved it about in a threatening manner then it would be a Police matter. I think all school will tell you is that it's been dealt with in an appropriate way.

You'll hear very little from school now he's at secondary. It's like a whole other world you're not a part of aside from the snippets your child gives away, and this will probably dwindle as he settles in and it isn't "new" any more.

@candycaneframe fast learning that secondary is a whole new world. Sigh.

Not sure what you expected

A girl behind me had her hair set on fire in year 9, in science class.

Kid had a suspension but was back in a few days and still needed access to the burner.

You need to unclench

Don’t be that parent. Your kid is growing up and has to learn how to be independent and get on with things. He wasn’t threatened with a knife, sounds like another less well behaved boy was being silly and showing off, and has been/is being punished. They let them used knives in secondary, as a learning curve. I’m sure your son isn’t traumatized

How would school ensure it doesn't happen again, other than banning knives in food tech or banning that child from food tech? Is that the outcome you want?

The school dealt with the incident on the day. They obviously have a procedure in place.

What else do you want the school to do? Offer you an apology, ban knives, ban children, something else?

Secondary school is MASSIVELY different to primary OP. You have to trust the school. If I was unsure whether my child's school would act appropriately in these circumstances, I wouldnt have sent them there.

Trust that they are acting correctly (unless ofsted have judged them inadequate at safeguarding or something)

Aaaah OP. Secondary school. I saw two boys trying to stab eachother with fabric sheers, one kid pummeling another's arm with the sharp end of a compass, a whole liver be launched across the room at a girl's head, multiple instances of things being set on fire (including one kid setting his own hand alight as "a joke"), a girl smashing a plate glass window over an entire year 9 PE class, among many many other things.

Children at that age are little savages. I doubt this will be the last time your kid is witness to someone acting absurdly. So long as the school took appropriate action (which it seems they did) it's just one of those "suck it up" situations.

School DID deal with it and you know what happened. School don't need to contact parents every time a student is in a room where something has kicked off and the school handled it.

You also don't get the little brown envelopes saying "your child fell down and grazed his knee." High school's a long way from the coddling of primary.

I'm fully aware that I'm probably projecting because of an issue at DS' school currently but you are being so unreasonable it actually makes me angry. Your child wasn't in danger, wasn't traumatised and frankly, it was a silly incident. But because your precious little darling saw something just a little bit off, you are all over this and demanding answers and solutions?!

Seriously, get over yourself. Children like yours are why children like mine get bullied - because they're never told that actually no, they DON'T get to be the centre of attention at all times and on all things and that actually, someone else's needs might take priority.