Is this unfair?

[gingertoast]

So I've lived with DP for 3 years. He has a business with a partner 50/50.

Yesterday he announced he was adding me to the corporate health insurance- I'd not actually thought of this before. I knew he had cover but didn't ever think to be added. It transpires there is policy in place for business partners now ex girlfriend, her child from previous relationship and another senior member of staff, his girlfriend and her kids. This was renewed last autumn when he could've added me but for whatever reason chose not to

AIBU to wonder why I only now I'm be added to policy - it's made me feel like an afterthought and clearly treated differently to the other partners

It sounds more as though it's only just occurred to him, which I don't think is the same as being an afterthought.

I'd not actually thought of this before.

Maybe his previous partners did, and asked.

Maybe as a result he’s only just thought of it now as he’s been spending the rest of the time running the business itself?

YABVU and a tad insecure.

So I should say that he reviews all policies with broker every year (it's a sizeable business). They added other senior staff last year (All employees) which makes perfect sense but the other partners have never worked there

I'm pretty sure that when I was added to dh's that our dc were able to be added immediately, at the same time as he was but I wasn't eligible to be added for a year or something. Could have been longer.

And we've been married for over twenty years,

He's planning to do you in obviously

While he reviews policies, he may not have realised the other partners partners were on.

it took me 2 years to realise I could add to my dd to company car insurance. Even though I was awake of the policy.

TBH, when you say ‘this isn’t unfair’ how do you suggest he now makes it fair?

It’s not really about fair or unfair. Surely it’s about how he views you?

What did he say when you said ‘why didn’t you add me before?’

Yes sorry 'is this unfair' isn't a great title. It is how he views me.

He says I told him last year I didn't want to go on it, which is untrue and a nonsense given he was proposing to add me now anyhow without reference to myself (he did it yesterday with broker)

Maybe he was waiting to know for certain you were together long term

I don't see what your problem is?

You had never thought of it, he has obviously only just thought of it. Now he has added you.

It would be unfair if you had asked and he refused.