Joined a friendship app but 90% want Mum friends only

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Has anybody heard of an app called Peanut?
It was advertised to me on Facebook as a way to meet local friends in the area.
I need to stop bothering/relying on old school friends who it's nice when I see them approx twice a year, but they're just not that interested otherwise, a few have babies now too and have new mum friends.
I'm 31 and don't have children, my partner is 27 so will probably not want any for a good while, but I'm still on the fence about it anyway.
Anyway I've joined this Peanut app as meetup groups are usually full of men wanting to date, which is fair enough but I just want platonic friends and don't want to give the wrong idea.
However on this Peanut, 90% of members specify they want "Mum friends".
I've written that I don't have children but I'm just looking for people I can get on with.
I understand they will want to share similar experiences but I feel a bit deflated that the majority of people only want friends who also have children. Why does it matter?

I read that as in they want friends for themselves, as in me as a mum, rather than they only want friends who are mums?

Peanut is really an app for mums/mums to be to find friends in their area or others they can talk to who have similar due dates.
I always describe it as Tinder for mums 🤣
Not really the ideal friendship app if you don't have or aren't planning on having children

Try a different app - maybe meetup? Peanut is aimed at women who have kids or are trying to have kids, it’s not just a general friendship app.

Peanut really is aimed at new Mums, they sponsor Happy Mum Happy Baby and really aim themselves at that demographic. Maybe try Meetup? That's much more broad

Ah ok, I must have misunderstood what it was for. It's just the way it was presented on Facebook but I should've researched the app first maybe.
I'm just looking for more female-populated activities but not sure where to find them.

It's also depressed me in a way, all of the women on there who are new Mums or pregnant look very young, definitely under 33, I don't know why it's gotten me down even though I'm on the fence about it

Anything arty will be mostly women, also choirs, yoga/pilates, dance classes. My area has a women's netball team and running club. Definitely check meetup.

I'm in Greater Manchester so there must be something! It's not that I'm against male friends, but I always find it hard to navigate as you never know what their intentions really are, unless in certain circumstances

Meetup is good, I've used it, and I've also heard that Bumble has a friends function, not sure if it's any good but my guess is that it would be good in a city area.

Bumble BFF is the general version for friend dating

Bumble has a friendship section, and a professional networking one too. Might just want to tell your partner why you're downloading it though 🤣

I've met some wonderful friends through women only Meetup groups, you're right the mixed groups are full of men looking for relationships in my experience.

Aw op that is tough but the reality is mums with pre school children will be using the app so they have people to hang out with on mat leave.

It will be mums arranging to meet at playgroups at 10am...not adults who want interesting chator evening hangouts

I have made friends recently joining a choir....and a table tennis club !

Peanut is for mums. They advertise it as tinder for mums. Not sure if they’re branching it out to make friends but I’ve been aware of it for a year and it’s always been a mums thing.

Yep try bumble, a colleague of mine used it when moving to Manchester and it helped her settle in!

I think generally it’s a practical thing, because you can bring your kids along for meet ups and you’re kind of in the same boat with that - and a day out or visit will be geared towards the kid’s interests. A day out with the kids is very different to a day out meeting with just a friend. And realistically you wouldn’t get many meet-ups without the kids, parents don’t have that kind of time. So I think it’s also friendship expectations - ‘mum friends’ will expect low maintenance. Kids and family come first.
I think it does make a significant difference day to day - especially with a brand new friend! It’s one thing having a friend with kids you’ve known for ages. I think building a new friendship with someone who has children when you don’t could be fairly tricky. Those mums are just realistic and honest about that. It’s not personal. Reality is, you’d probably be the first to let that new friendship fizzle out because they don’t have the time you have to focus on your friendship and you’d quickly get fed up with having your conversations interrupted by the kids. And you probably don’t really fancy another meet-up at the play park or local petting zoo. They are just evading your inevitable eventual rejection!

I would definitely get on to meet up.. I've been to lots of events and met some great people 👍

Is this an advert for Peanut? Surely everyone knows what it is when they see it. It's not like they hide that it's for mums.

Erm peanuts is for mums!! I wouldn’t want to become friends with someone on there that didn’t have children either as I would think it was weird they was joining a MUMS app and had no kids like you have an ulterior motive!

Peanut is very much for mums... when you sign up doesn't it make you specify whether you're pregnant, got kids, or TTC? It did when I joined, anyway.

Other apps I've heard of that might be of more use to you are Bumble BFF, and Hey Vina. I have never used either so no clue if they're any good, but worth checking out.

It was advertised on Facebook just as a way to meet friends in your local area, but will keep trying with Meetup and also give bumble bff a go

I saw this advert too and signed up thinking it was not just for mums. I am a mum but to older children and I found that matches were mainly for mum's with children under 3. I was looking for friend-friends not mum-friends!

Try Girl Gang in Manchester. Nice crowd.

It's not just for new mums. There's a section if your menopausal. Many have grown up children.