To have not had sex with DH since May

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2 small children, 1 newborn with quite high needs plus lots of health issues towards end of pregnancy has led to quite a sexless marriage. I’m just too tired but feel a bit disconnected. (DH hasn’t complained once in fairness)

Well me too! Had sex once in the last 9 or 10 months! Children are 10 and 8. Had sex a lot prior to their arrival :) We are both always just too exhausted! Usually manage a bit of rumpy pumpy on holiday, but didn't even manage that this year as the children were basically next to us all week!

Maybe when we retire? 🤷

It doesn't matter what we think. If you are okay with it, and he is okay with it, then carry on. If one of you isn't then talk to each other, go counselling, find out what needs to be done to get you in the mood.

Good luck with the baby!
Your DH sounds lovely.

I would suggest you try not to let it go too long as not having sex can be a bit habit forming and you can hit marriage problems without realising it.

It only matters to you and your dh, besides to be sexless I think you need to have had no action for a year…. Sure i read that somewhere.

Don’t feel guilty. If it’s bothering you have a chat with him about it and maybe try for some no pressure physical
affection to see how that makes you feel. My second has just turned 1 and although DH and I have got it on a few times since her birth I’ve only really started to want it recently. And not that often, either, because we’re both exhausted. I think it’s more important that we’re talking and hugging and supporting each other.

IMHO YANBU - but I'm in same position and only one 10month old child but been back at work 4weeks and I work 4 days a week x