So I have a 13 year old daughter, I have raised her by myself her dad came in and out of her life for many years. My daughter sees his side of the family , when she visits she stays with his mum. He may pop in to say hi but for the most part he doesn’t bother apart from a text every now and again.
Recently she got very upset about the lack of time she spends with her dad, I reached out to him because of this. He said he would meet her after school and take her out, he never did. We do not get on, I admit I’m holding a lot of resentment for how he’s treated her over the years. She always says how awkward their relationship is but they get on well enough.
Anyway sorry for the long backstory, we have argued before because he would randomly give me £50 here and there and I wouldn’t say thank you to him. I asked him for some money this month, he sent a long message about how his money is tied up but hopes at the end of the month to send something. He then asked how I am, but we do not have a relationship like that, I didn’t reply quick enough, he sent a screenshot of thousands of pounds in his bank. He said if she doesn’t have holes in her clothes or no dinner he doesn’t care if I need money, I have no manners and I don’t show respect. He then said I am jealous because he slept with my friend whilst I was pregnant 14 years ago!!
His mum has now weighed in saying I know he wants us to have respectable conversations, he doesn’t like it when I just ask for money and would like to be able to talk about our daughters future! He doesn’t even know what school she goes to, what clubs she does, he knows nothing about her! Arghhhhh