Am I overreacting ?

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Long story short. DH got sent a joke from a casual friend. Not exactly sure of the context but something to do with skinny men slating big women, yet behind closed doors (pic of Kermit and Miss Piggy "at it"). Completely juvenile, but that aside, DH didn't really understand what the point of the joke was (nor did I), but then proceeds to say "Do you think he's intimating this is us"? Then says, well he can't mean us because I'm not skinny.
Now I feel like DH thinks I must fit the other criteria.
This has to be up there with the most ridiculous thing I've ever posted, but I feel low about myself at the moment re weight gain and getting older, so this was the cherry on the cake. I've said nothing but cried all afternoon. AIBU??

You're overreacting. He didn't say you fit the other criteria, you've just assumed it. It sounds to me like he was thinking out loud. Idiotic, but not nasty.

I would feel the same as you. However he could of just been thinking out loud trying to work out the joke. If he doesn't usually say hurtful things, I would try to let it go

I get what you're saying - what he should have said is it can't be because you don't fit the profile, because that's the kinder thing to say, whether it's true or not.

If it's really upsetting you, mention it to him - say something like "that Kermit joke from earlier, what you said has really been playing in my mind. When you said that it could be about us because you're not that slim, did you mean that Miss Piggy could have represented me?" He's likely to insist of course not, and you probably won't believe him, but hopefully he'll realise that it's a sensitive topic for you and not do similar in future.

I've gained a lot of weight the last few years due to health issues and peri menopause, so it's the sort of thing that would have hurt my feelings too. I'm sure that he was trying to poke fun at himself and just didn't think that it sounded as if he were calling you fat.

If you can shake it off though, try to do that rather than letting it eat at you.

I'm perimenopausal too. My hormones are shot and I've been really down on myself recently, I guess this didn't help because I'm super sensitive to things right now. Thanks for your advice I do appreciate it 🥰