To want some kind of response...

[denpark]

Ok, so I'm meant to be going out out tonight. I hardly ever get to have a proper night out and my friend & I have had this arranged for ages.

I saw her yesterday & we were both getting quite excited about tonight.

Today I've messaged her to check where we're meeting/what time to book taxis etc and I've had zero response from her.

She's been in Facebook messaged - I know she has . So, why?

Am I going out?
Am I not going out?
I'm trying not to get upset here...

Call her?

but if you saw her yesterday and she confirmed, you should be okay

Yeah call her surely

Is there any reason you feel she might let you down?

Are you one of those super annoying people who have to text fifty times to confirm any random plan? If so she’s probably hoping you will just follow the plan you already made. Maybe she’s busy getting ready?

Did the messages go through? I suppose a number of things could have happened especially if she has kids. When you talked about your night out had you not decided on a meeting place/time. Its really frustrating to be left hanging… if everythings in place for you to go out is there no one you could text for a few drinks?

What time did you arrange yesterday?

Didn’t you agree a time/place when you spoke?

@denpark I would be feeling the same, tbh.. am very much hoping that you are chatting on the phone to her right now..

Any word from your friend op?

Just call her, OP, otherwise you'll just get yourself all worked up and not enjoy the evening when you finally go out 🥂

I understand.

I find it quite stressful when someone goes silent on the day we are meeting, especially if it's someone that can be flakey.

Once I've heard from them on the day, and we have a firm plan, time, place etc I can relax.

Had you made a specific plan of where and when to meet already? If so perhaps she feels a reply isn't needed?

Sorry! Meant to reply last night. We had a firm plan apart from the exact meet up.
I texted and tried to call to firm that bit up and heard nothing back at all.I ended up giving up abs going out to a friend's bar. I texted abs told her where I was going to be and still heard nothing

Really disappointed and upset. Not sure what the hell happened

That's so rude of her. I would hope for a spectacular excuse otherwise it's just really poor behaviour of her.

Oh no how out of order!

Glad you still went out, any word on what happened? Is she ok? I’d be concerned something terrible had happened if a friend let me down like that with no explanation.

That's so rude.

Did she contact you in the end?

Still heard nothing. She's been active on Facebook messenger but hasn't read my message (so that looks like it's on purpose).
I'm so confused and quite worried but if she isn't answering texts or calls there's not much I can do.

I honestly thought we had a good friendship and I'm feeling incredibly hurt. I've had people treat me poorly in friendships in the past so this is cutting a little deep

Exactly that! You'd think today she'd have sent some kind of explanation. Nothing! I've heard nothing at all

I'm resisting the urge to message a 'what the fuck?!' message to her, just in case something bad happened .

Do it OP. Send a message

People saying she’s rude, I’d be worried about her., that something was wrong.

That's why I've avoided sending any kind of 'what the fuck?' message, just in case something's wrong. Stuck to an 'are you ok?' one but part of me feels so damn angry!

If she's been active she's fine just being an ignorant fucker.

I know it's frustrating but I'd just leave it, silence speaks volumes. When she nexts messages you or you see her bring it up straight away.

Good idea. I'm seething, I really am. I'm so so fucking annoyed and angry with her.