Questions asked at hospital

[Anxiousmummy1187]

I took my daughter into hospital today for infected earring.

mynson was being a menace and I kept having to tell him off, I was very stressed as I’m anxious and hate hospital, we’re going on holiday next week and my card just got blocked so I’m trying to sort it all out in one go so I didn’t have much patience with him so kept telling him to stop doing things like fighting with sister on chair and running around.

when we saw the nurse she asked if she had any allergies etc and then asked what school she was at, who she lived with and first names. Then if social was involved,

I’ve left feeling like they’re going to be reporting me for maybe me telling my son off.. I’m an over thinker 😂 has anyone else had these questions asked I’m proper panicking they’re gonna take my kids from me.

Normal questions.

It's a standard question. Don't over think it.

Standard questions

Are you going on holiday in termtime?

Don't worry op. All these questions are asked of everyone and records are kept to protect the most vulnerable children in society. It's not because they think you are a bad mother.

Deists that got to do with you? Or the thread??

beak out.

Yes we are we’re off to Disney world

It might just have something to do with their questions.

I did wonder what they question was asked 🤣 not sure what it has to do with going on holiday

I always lie with the SS question as we had a malicious referral once and I refuse to let that person further ruin my life . It was malicious and unfounded so I always say no as otherwise it’s grossly unfair on us to be flagged up when we were lied about. They never check either if the answers are true or not

Also you'd hope that a child being in school wouldn't be brushed of as "Ah well, the adults there can report anything suspicious".

@Anxiousmummy1187 Dont worry about the daft 'hapeth saying she didn't know your name either! They'll be used to that. Kids are often unsure/uncomfortable saying their parents actual name.

I'm about 900, so maybe they don't do this now, but I'd have just bathed her piercings with a weak solution of Savlon/Dettol. I wouldn't have wanted to sit in A&E for hours for that.

DS would have got properly told off too, so don't worry about that!!

No one's going to take your kids off you. 💕

hell, they can't even manage to take the kids off of parents that they should!

They're standard.

I took my ds when he cracked his head.

They insisted I he answered questions being being autistic. I explained he wouldn't be able to give the answers they wanted.

They insisted.

They got very literal answers and I was giggling away.

I walked away thinking they could (and probably would) report to SS (they didn't!).

But they did end up having to ask me the questions in the end

HOW?

As everyone has said, they're standard questions.

I think this is standard practice to at least try to ask the child first. I can imagine that a lot of abusers talk for their children so that the questioner gets the answer they want them to.

You went to A&E with an infected ear-piercing?

You do realise that an infection can be serious?
You also do realise that most people are struggling to see a GP in a timely manner?

Yes we go to America next Tuesday and my friends daughter has to have antibiotics for hers so she advised me I go and see if they were needed. It was urgent treatment centre not a&e

Also, OP has never once mentioned A+E. Could easily have been minor injuries or similar.

Thanks it was a treatment centre and we go away next week so I didn’t want any problems or it causing her pain or turn into something nasty. My friends girl had antibiotics for hers and my other friend is an advanced nurse and she told me to go to treatment centre as we were going away. We go down to London Monday and then fly Tuesday morning so leaving it til Monday I didn’t want to chance it

Ignore the A+E Police on this site You don't have to justify taking your child for medical attention to randoms on MN😂

Senior safeguarding Children's nurse here. As others have said it's a routine question and if I've attended hospital/walk in etc with my children and not been asked I have commented on it.

The same as all pregnant women should be asked about domestic abuse and any previous social work involvement at the earliest safe opportunity.

Attendances to ED are routinely copied to GP and Health Visitor/School Nurse. Helpful to pick up frequent attenders at different hospitals.

Attendances to walk in centres and similar can be variable in sending the attendance information to the HV/School Nurse.

Home schooling alone is not a safeguarding issue. However, SOME children are 'home schooled' to keep them out of sight of professionals as they are being abused or neglected so home schooling plus other concerns may pique the interest of a safeguarding professional.

Regarding one historic malicious allegation. You aren't lying when you say no to social services input. The question asked at triage is looking for current active or recently closed social worker cases.

I don't judge the illness or injury through a different lens if there is a social worker involved any differently to how I assess any other presentation. That avoids unconscious bias and ensures I don't miss the naice middle class family who are spinning a line.

And we don't fall for being told the children were on a Child Protection Plan for 'housing problems'. I've never in over 25 years found that to be the single reason children were subject to state legislated involvement for their welfare.

A lot of nonsense gets posted on here about safeguarding and child protection!

It's routine. Depending on child's age you might get a follow up call from the GP/Health Visitor/School Nurse to see if they can offer any more help with the medical issue. Again all totally routine.

(We had to take ds a lot due to his disabilities - sometimes they called, sometimes not)

Standard, and even more when you are separated from their dad, ie 'who do you live with, who has parental responsibility, when do you see dad'etx etc

Fair enough if medical centre not A&E, that's different. Although I see someone trying to say an ear-piercing infection is serious enough for A&E, No it's not.