Would this annoy you?

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I’m seeing a guy who lives near me and we arranged to meet tonight at my house. We didn’t say a set time but he told me to let him know when I was ready. I messaged him saying ‘would you mind coming up in about half an hour’ his reply was ‘that would be getting on a bit, I’ll walk up now’ I replied saying I just want to sort a few things out before and his reply was ‘you don’t need to sort anything out for me. Lol I’m setting off now’ would this annoy you?

Yes he ignored you're polite request. I'd be annoyed.

I'd be annoyed and today (it been a long, shit week) wouldn't answer the door or respond to any messages for at least half an hour.

For the sake of half an hour? No, it wouldn't annoy me.

He told you to let him know when you were ready, why didn't you just wait the half hour and say 'OK, I'm ready now, you can come'.

Or even better, just arrange a time in the first place!!

Yes definitely. It'd do more than jist annoy me, it'd creep me out as he isn't taking no for an answer.

*just

A half hour is getting on a bit? Fucking bollocks. He isn't listening to you or respecting your decision, and that is a massive, massive red flag.

He should have listened - but was it getting too late?

Yes, that would annoy me. What a pushy twat.

Yes it would annoy me.

He doesn't get to dictate when he comes to your house. If he thought it was getting too late, he should've told you to make it another time.

It would annoy me for the reasons others have mentioned - it would probably make me feel like he was ignoring my wishes and not respecting my boundaries.

If this matters to you, do talk to him about how his behaviour is making you feel. Maybe he genuinely doesn’t realise how you feel (in which cases hopefully you talking to him will change his mind and help him understand how you feel). Or maybe he is intentionally ignoring his boundaries (which obviously isn’t good).

Sorry - meant to say ‘ignoring your boundaries’

Very rude and pushy, hope you ignored the door.