Selling unwanted baby clothes

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Is it unreasonable to sell baby clothes you don’t like/ will never get used in that size, that were gifted by friends/ family to use the money to buy baby clothes you do like/bigger size?

if you found out someone sold baby clothes you’d bought, what would your reaction be?

(I’m not saying who I am in this situation to keep replies impartial)

I’d rather somebody got what they wanted instead of the money going to waste whilst the item of clothing sits in a drawer unworn.

When I received gifts for my baby, which weren’t to my taste I donated them to a mum and baby refuge or swapped them if I was given a receipt.

Personally I would be offended if someone sold on clothes I bought, I’d much rather them to be donated. However I learnt from my own situation to always ensure I get a gift receipt just incase, so they can swap them for something they do like.

It’s fine. As a gift it’s theirs to do with as they wish. I’ve never sold baby clothes but I’ve bought hundreds and they’re usually pretty cheap so no one’s making mega bucks off it.

I certainly wouldn't sell on Facebook market place or or Vinted account they knew about about. But in general, there's not a problem with it, they gift is for the benefit of the recipient, not the giver. However, I know someone who was upset by seeing someone else sell something they'd given to the baby, and wouldn't want to cause that feeling myself so would make sure it was sold anonymously.

It would depend on the gift as to how I'd feel about it. If it were selected specially for someone I was close to, I might be a bit hurt. If it were something chosen because I knew I should buy a gift for a friend and that was what I landed on, then I'd be considerably less arsed.

Selling baby clothes is a political debacle on here that I never understand.

Your friend buys you perfume for Christmas, it's not one you like so you sell it and buy a different one. What's the difference?

If they'd been bought recently I'd take them back tkt the shop. They will often let you exchange for something else even if you don't have a receipt.

I was bought so many clothes for DS, I ended up selling 90% of them (and still had too many) & bought clothes in bigger sizes instead.

I still sell on his old clothes and use the money to buy new in the next size for him, so I feel like that initial gift keeps on giving.

I’d be annoyed. It’s understandable if the clothing is totally unsuitable/too small and the money raised is then spent on the child but it’s a grey area.
I’ve always been convinced that SS ex-partner sold on the clothes we bought and spent the money raised on herself.

I do this all the time. I don't think anyone has found out. If people bothered to ask me what we needed and to check what size the DC are I wouldn't have to!

Wouldnt enter my head that anyone would be annoyed by me doing this?!

What sort of odd bod would care if someone did? The mind boggles.

If they were a gift ie new clothes bought on birth of baby/baby shower etc then do what you like with them. If a friend has passed on a bag of used clothes then I think you should also pass them on and not sell them.

Selling them isn't nice. I'd donate if it was the wrong size, keep and use anyway if it wasn't to my taste. Because I'm not awkward.

I think it's fine.

My gran would have been genuinely hurt and upset if I'd sold things she picked out for my children. I wouldn't have done it.

No problem with donating or selling on once they've outgrown though.

Most of the baby clothes on Vinted only go for a few quid - if you think the person might be hurt, hang on a bit til they've outgrown the size anyway?

I have to sell clothes that are too small to clothe my child 🤷🏻‍♀️There’s no grey area for me sadly

I wouldn't be offended but I'd always include a gift receipt. You get so little selling on second hand clothes (even new with tags) that I would prefer they could swap for something they wanted in the shop then get a fraction of what I paid back.

It wouldn't bother me as I would much rather the recipient have the cash to buy something else than them donate it to a charity shop etc.

Nothing against charity shops but it seems a shame that the recipient ends up with nothing other than feeling virtuous when they really could do with a certain item.

My Dsis (whom I love dearly) gets me totally useless gifts and I have no guilt whatsoever about putting them on ebay.

If you are the recipient OP, sell away!

Most high street chains will exchange for different sizes or gift receipts. I swapped loads of stuff for both my kids. Small babies and stuff was wrong seasons.

No point having stuff going to charity shop that's never been worn.

My daughters and friends to whom I’ve gifted fairly expensive baby clothes have always asked if I minded if they sold them after they were outgrown. I’ve always taken the view that a gift means passing all control to the recipient so I’ve responded they are free to do as they wish.
In our family we have lots of babies and children as I’m one of 5 sisters, all of us having children and now grandchildren. So we all hold onto some clothes and toys and pass them down to the next children. When outgrown, they’re returned to go to someone else. Nice to see nieces and nephews wearing beautiful clothes with a family connection.

Yes I rouldnt be offended, but then, I'd also include the gift receipt so they could swap them if need be. I'd love to be given gift receipts too but I very rarely.do.

Luckily M&S and next will exchange for bigger sizes/different styles of the rags are still on. Apart from my brother who let his kids grab the clothes out my hands and tear the tags off as soon as I unwrapped them. That was frustrating.

I think either swap them for the right size or wait until child has grown out of them and sell them on.

My reaction would be ah well that's why I included a gift receipt. I always tell my sister to let me know if she doesn't like something and I'll exchange it for her, don't want to give her the hassle

Oh just sell them. It doesn't really matter as long as the baby is dressed

I wouldn't be annoyed at you, but probably a little hurt/embarrassed that I'd picked something you didn't like.

Is it possible to wait until they won't fit anymore? I definitely wouldn't be upset if someone sold something I bought them if it's been grown out of or isn't usable anymore.

Otherwise, you could stick them on vinted with an unidentifiable username and they will never know.

I don't understand why it would be offensive. If you give somebody a gift then you want them to get value from the item, don't you? If they don't actually like it, or have finished using it, then selling it is perfectly reasonable IMO.

But I think I have a different attitude to presents to other people because I quite often come across things that are confusing (to me) about gift etiquette.

I can't be doing with all kinds of complicated rules, though. If I accept second hand clothes off people I usually check beforehand if they want me to do anything specific with them when they are outgrown and only take them if they say oh whatever, I don't care. If they are like please only pass them on for free within this specific group, or want them back when they are done then I say thanks but no thanks. There is too much to keep track of when you have small DC without trying to remember exactly which piece of clothing came from where!

What would be unreasonable would be pleading poverty/asking for clothing donations and then immediately selling them for cash, but no, I don't think it's unreasonable to sell items that you happen to own however you acquired them (as long as they were acquired honestly!)