My friend's baby was christened last weekend. I don't know them very well, we grew up together but have drifted - we now talk occasionally about our babies but are not in close touch.
Had an invite to the christening and wanted to go - I mentioned to her mum, who lives over the road, that we should be coming.
The day before I began to have doubts as Ds1 is very lively and in chirch last year he was a total nightmare, and I ended up leaving in tears half way through - it was a children's service but even so, he could not manage to sit down at all or be quiet (he is four).
I would have been on my own, my parents would have been there as they are family friends but I would have been struggling to cope with my 4 yr old and the baby. I suddenyl realised it was going to be a nightmare, and asked my mother to make my excuses for me as she would see them there. She reckoned they wouldn't mind and agreed with me it was sensible, there is no crying room at the church, we would prob have left after 5 minutes.
Anyway we had an invite to go for a walk by the sea with another family, which I accepted and that's what we did - Ds needed the run.
(I sent a lovely card and present via my mum as well.)
I just saw the mother of my friend, who was fine until I mentioned the christening and said my mother had told me it was lovely, and I was sorry to miss it but thought the boys would have been disruptive.
She got this really cross look, a harsh voice and launched into a telling off, that it was very silly of me, because there were 20 children there and it was 'all set up for children' etc etc, and then proceeded to humph off in a strop.
I stood on the pavement just mortified, I felt like crying.
was it so awful of me not to think it would be a good idea to take my lively child, knowing what he's like in church, and having no idea it was 'all set up' for children - or was she right to be totally off with me?