I have 2 DC. ExH sees them once a week ish, very rarely on weekends.
He currently pays as if he has them stay at his 1-2 nights a week, even though he often doesn't have them, and doesn't pay as much as he is supposed to. But he pays every month so I've accepted that so as not to rock the boat.
He has now told me that he is 'skint' and can no longer see the kids during the week, just on random weekends when he can. He only has them on weekends currently once a month if that.
The reason he can't see them is because he is taking on a second job. He doesn't plan to increase his maintenance payments for the reduced time he will be having them, nor for the fact he will be earning more from this extra job.
For info it is just me and my DCs, I have a full time job and 2 mortgages from buying his share of the marital house from him.
He has no other kids, a partner who also works full time and has no kids (not really relevant other than his bills are shared so to speak) and a mortgage of their own.
However. My eldest (16) has told me that the real reason he is skint and is taking on an extra job is because he has booked a 'once in a lifetime' holiday, and he needs to pay for it.
AIBU to be so angry that he is dodging his financial responsibility to the kids just to have a bloody holiday??