Unbelievably dismissive doctor

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I’ve been in a lot of pain over the last few days with a weird pain in my side- it feels deep inside rather than a muscle thing.

anyway just spoke to the doctor on the phone and he was unbelievably dismissive - basically the equivalent of shrugged his shoulders on the phone & said the equivalent of I have no idea, nothing we can do and made me feel like a total malingerer. I actually cried when I came off the phone.

Aibu to expect at least some standard of patient care. I’m in loads of pain but he ran thru a few questions and because I didn’t fit his answers, that was it. Nothing.

YANBU, an unusual pain like that lasting a few days should be investigated. Likely nothing serious but should still be checked out.

YANBU but you have to really push the NHS to take this seriously. GPS don’t have time to investigate things unless you make a fuss.

Call again, dont complain make another appt ask if you can have a face to face and which doc will be calling/seeing you. If it is the same clown, seek different doc

Good luck

Make another appointment and don't take no for an answer. X

I have actually complained once before around perimenopause symptoms and general dismissive attitudes so maybe I have a black mark against my name!!!

Well is the pain going away? If not you don’t have much choice but to seek help.

so maybe I have a black mark against my name!!!

Oh don't be so dramatic.

Does it hurt when you breathe in? Out? All the time? When you're standing up or lying down? Bending over? Going up and down stairs?

Do you have a cough? A temperature?

Call 111. Or make an appointment in person and write a list of symptoms before you go so you don't forget anything.

Where is your psin, have you injured yourself or got other symptoms. Some doctors can be dismissive unfortunately.

It’s a shooting pain down my right side that comes and goes. No temp or anything - it just feels very painful and very odd.

Call 111 or go to A&E if you genuinely are in “loads of pain”

Why are people being sneery and dismissive. The GP sounds bad.

You will have to keep pushing hard or turn up at A&E I'm afraid. It shouldn't be like that. What happens to someone very unassertive or with communication difficulties? It really worries me.

Could you afford a private gp appointment OP? You can get some on Zoom, just Google. I am unsure if they can refer you back to the NHS for further investigation, not sure how it works.
But you shouldn't have to do that of course. NHS has gone to pot. Yes I know it's mainly the government's fault for underfunding.

A pain in your right side, just below your bra band, could be gallstones.

@Pemba its tempting to go private tbh but not sure I could afford it. But paying for someone to actually listen to me is appealing. What a shitshow!

My friend had gallstones but presented with gynae pain for years before they worked it out.

I would also want ovarian cyst ruled out.

@HerculesMulligan could it? That’s where it is, kind of on my side round onto my back

There was a doctor at my old surgery that I point blank refused to see because of her attitude. I wouldn’t see her even if she was the duty doctor for emergency appointments and would wait until the next day. It all boiled down to when I went with my mum to see her after I’d had 4 seizures the previous day as I needed a prescription. I couldn’t remember the name of one of my medications and I kept apologising and saying how sorry I was that I couldn’t remember but my brain was so fuzzy and I was still confused after the seizures. She kept barking at me that ‘you must know what they are’ ‘tell me what they are’ etc. I was almost in tears and my mum had to tell her to stop. Such a terrible attitude.

Book to see another GP in the surgery.
Do not assume a private GP will be better. Someone posted recently about a private GP being very dismissive with them.
It si worth trying to find out who is good in the practice or changing GPs. We have a brilliant GP practice our neighbours recommended. But a friend is with a practice where the GPs seem pretty dismissive. You need to shop around like you would for any service.

That's how my gallstone pain began, OP. It's certainly worth asking a (more sympathetic) doctor about. Apparently the classic diagnosis is someone "fair, fat and forty" (I am pale, fat and was 39....)

I have the exact same pain OP. You need to ask for a referral for a scan. They can check your ovaries as well as your gallbladder, liver, kidneys etc as it could be a number of things in that area. I thought it was my gallbladder at first too, as I've had severe pain on my right side on and off for years. Turns out it's IBS. It can still be horrifically painful at times though, you shouldn't be fobbed off

He can't prescribe you anything and that's really where his skills end. His training allows him to match drugs to symptoms. If your symptoms don't indicate any drug he won't want to nor feel he can do anything about them. He studied medicine, not health.

But surely he should refer her on then? Unexplained bad pain, especially a new pain? Just indicate there's a problem. They should be finding out what it is.
Sorry but that sounds like an excuse.

My brother kept going to the GP with persistent back pain. He was fobbed off. When he collapsed in the street and turned yellow he was taken to hospital and they discovered pancreatic cancer, he died 6 weeks later.

Not fucking good enough GP.

Could it be shingles OP? I had a similar pain last year that got dismissed by a GP as muscular, but a faint rash slowly started to appear and I ended up in agony in A&E where I got diagnosed and then a significant rash came up. Please try another GP appointment tomorrow and check for any signs of a rash

I was going to say this, I had unbearable pain in my side and back, just after I bought a new sofa - I thought I'd completely screwed up and spent loads on something that was crippling me.

4 days later a rash started, it was shingles.

Unfortunately these days YABU to expect any better.

but it should be better. It really should.