To hate being a mother

[firsttimemum1234567]

I hate everything about it. DS is 18 months. I get no help and no support, ever. I'm just stuck. It's to the point where I hate my life so bad and regret having a baby so badly. I'm just sad all the time and I just want this all to end I don't know why I'm writing this, I have no one else to say it to. I don't know what I'm looking for, maybe for some comfort in knowing I'm not the only one? Idk.

Could you have PND?

Why do you never get a break?

I'm sorry x

Do you have a partner or co-parent? Any friends or family? Are you a SAHP? Have you felt like this the whole time or just recently?

I have a 4 year old and a 17 month old. I started enjoying my child when she turned 2.5 l
I am hating this stage with ds. Go through lows all the time regretting but I remember feeling the same with dd.

They whine none stop and feels you can't do anything. Imprisoned to a toddler.

It gets better x

Sorry to hear this. Just know that things always get better. This too shall pass.

I felt like this from DD's birth up to when she was about 2.5 years old. Since then it's been slowly getting easier / better. She's now 3 and I actually miss her and enjoy her company. I never thought I would say that LOL. Hang in there!! X

I think I do have PND. Went to the gp, they prescribed promethazine for when I 'feel stressed'. I never get a break because I have no parents or friends that can support and the baby's father is just a selfish cunt

Stay strong OP
HERES SOME THINGS YOU NEED TO Do - put yourself first ! A happy mum is a great mum. Get your mindset going strong and then you can focus and enjoy your child

Face mask
Lavender on your pillow
Declutter
Find a baby group
Go swimming
Motorise
Get some scented candles on the go
Get a take out
Meal prep for the whole week on one day so you don't have to cook all week then
Do all the washing and cleaning altogether and then nothing for a few days
Get yourself some new Pjs and spend a day in them
Find a tv series you can binge preferably something funny
Join a baby and mum walking group
Blast some music and dance with your child
Paint your nails
Breathe - take a minute and literally just breathe
Stop putting pressure on yourself
Sing even if you can't it helps
Run a bath and relax in their with your child if you haven't got a bath the shower works too
Had enough? Get some old plates and smash them(obviously clean up) but it helps
Get a punch bag
Do yoga from you tube
Can you afford a cleaner maybe?
Read with your child
Get audio books for your child and maybe you can get five minutes peace
Keep going

I could have written this, too. Had PND and absolutely hated being a parent until DS was at least 2. The feelings of regret didn't just all of a sudden disappear either, they slowly dissipated over time until I reached the point where I had more good days than bad. The upward trajectory continued from there, with occasional bumps in the road.

Great advice upthread - you need to try and prioritise your wellbeing, too. It must be really tough if you're on your own. I was prescribed Sertraline and that helped. Might be worth another conversation with the doctor?

Part of the turnaround for me was when I let go of some of the high standards I had set. I started caring less and less about what the 'ideals' looked like in my head and began to live a little more in the moment - doing what my gut was telling me. It does get better - it just feels like such hard work right now.

Lovely you need to to back to the doctors/ask for a different doctor. Yes parenting can be hard but there should be some enjoyment.
If your health visitor is helpful they could be good to talk to as well.