Late 30s what’s your life like?

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I’m not meaning to compare my life with others, I’m just interested in if your in your late 30s what your normal day / weekend looks like? What are you happy with or what are you looking to change etc? I’m always interested in ways to improve myself and take inspiration from others!

Late 30s three DC and a husband. Currently retraining so my days are very changeable depending if I'm on placement or in uni. But weekends are family time and I really enjoy time with my kids and husband getting out and about. Lots of down time with them as well as the normal getting them to dance classes, rugby training etc. Get to the gym 2 times a week minimum and see friends a couple of weekends a month as well as extended family.

Other than hopefully getting a slightly bigger house once I'm earning again I'm very happy with my day to day life and wouldn't really change anything.

37, married, pregnant with 1st DC. The last 7 years have been spent working on my career, ttc, getting sober and healthy. I have a good life now, I work part time, exercise and do a lot of self care.
Weekends are spent on diy, seeing friends, doing sport.
I feel like I have finally "got there" so god knows what will happen in November when the baby arrives!

Late 30s, married, one DD 3. DH works full time from home and I work part time 3 days but luckily due to pay rises am earning the same as I did when I was full time. Been with DH nearly 20 years so we have done loads together, (plenty of
exotic holidays, partying and lie ins) and got to a point where we felt ready to have a family. My days are spent working around my DD nursery hours and I have a job that is flexible and let’s me work around school hours and I get all the school holidays off. I’ve done the job over 10 years so I know it inside out. Weekends are spent doing things with DD (soft play, zoos, parks) and life feels great. Interesting a PP commented on if this was on a male forum would we have comments about how weekends were spent with kids or doing their own hobbies but DH really
enjoys the weekends together as a family and will say to friends he is busy. He used to be an avid cyclist who spent all his weekend out all day and cycled several times during the week after work. DH still cycles but just once a week with a local club. Our life pretty much revolves around our DD as we felt if we are bringing a child into this world we need to try and bring them up to be the best human being they can be. Due to fertility issues we won’t be having anymore so I cherish the fact I have been lucky to have DD and try to enjoy every minute with her, even when she has smeared spaghetti all over our sofa!

I’m 36, very happily married and no children: still on the fence about having any but probably not.

Just interviewed successfully for a new job so I’m happy about that; building my career which is important to me. I work from home most of the time but will be in the office more in new job:

Dh and I have separate bedrooms because we sleep much better apart and I love stretching out in my king size bed. He always comes in for a hug when he wakes up and then one of us (usually dh) will go downstairs and make the tea, bring it and a biscuit and the newspaper which we have delivered upstairs. We do the crosswords together.

Generally have separate breakfast weekdays, lunch together and then we cook dinner together- I usually cook and dh cleans up. He does more housework than me, and all the washing. We also have a weekly cleaner.

If we’re home in the week, then we do a jigsaw puzzle, listen to podcasts, watch tv or play games. We also socialise a lot and see friends or I go to my book clubs. At weekends, we usually go out for dinner, both like a few drinks, sometimes see friends or family. Usually a hangover pizza on Sundays. It’s a pretty good life really- no complaints from me.

37 married 2 DS aged 5 and nearly 2. Am still struggling with pnd from my 2nd (though at this point perhaps just bog standard depression)

Life is not what I expected. I love my children and dont regret having them but I am finding it so much harder than I was expecting or perhaps how much others seem to. I am permanently physically and mentally exhausted. I do no exercise, eat poorly and my weight has soared and my self esteem plummeted.

I work full time, partly from home. DH is the same. Weeks are school/nursery run and weekends are mainly seeing family as we both have large ones. Life is pretty boring, we have recently decided to try and do more things just the two of us.

My house is never as clean or tidy as I would like. It is too small really for the amount of people and stuff.

Not massively fulfilled career wise but there is scope to do another degree through work. We have some money worries which will largely be alleviated in 2024 when we stop paying £1k a month in nursery fees.

Wish I was happier, pinning a lot of my hopes on my mood improving as I leave the slog of early childhood behind.

Don’t feel like a mug for being single, I split with my child’s father in late 30’s. I’m 45 now and I’m happy. My child was only 2 and I felt like that like. Like I failure and I’d never meet anyone again. I’ve met plenty of people, none that I’d want to invest in long term mind but I’m very proud now that I left a toxic relationship. There’s far worse things than being on your own.

it must be hard for you having 2 kids one with SEN but honestly being single has turned out the best thing for me.

Awful.
Depression
Anxiety
Sleep Apnea
Autism
Dyslexic
Dyspraxic
2 kids don't listen to a word I say
Husband works away
In debt
Trying to claim
PIP
No friends
I never leave the house unless absolutely necessary
I just want to sleep all day

Such difficult ages, I am a single parent with only 1 child but found age 2-5 exhausting. She spends time with her dad etc but on those nights I’d barely move from the sofa. Didn’t really have a life at all. She is almost 9 now and I have much more energy. I don’t need to go to bed at 8pm and find the energy to things I enjoy. Obviously I love my dd beyond on measure but back then I’d sometimes think how can I keep going like this. I’m dragging myself through treacle daily. You’re just in the thick of it 🙂

No problem, I understand because I felt exactly the same. You feel like you will feel like that forever but you won’t. I see my ex and his new wife and they look so unhappy and I think meh glad I got out of there.

I'm 39, married 10years. 2 DC 7 and 4. Work pretty much FT in dream job which i kept going more PT when kids were younger. Its a full on job. Supporting my mum who has increasing health issues. Fully entered the sandwich generation earlier than I expected too.

Life feels busy! Various clubs for kids, trying to fit in the gym. My social life is feeling revived post covid and kids so this week I went out for dinner with work Tuesday and I'm staying overnight with friends this weekend ( not with kids). Lots of 40th birthday attended and in the planning between DH and I and friends.

I often think what I would be doing if I hadn't had kids- normally on a Sunday morning when one comes to wake me up at 5.30am!

I'm happy but feel soo tired physical and mentally from spinning the plates! If I wasn't having to support my mum and had support from family for a break from the kid's, life would feel a lot easier.