I’m 39 weeks pregnant and struggling. I’m the ‘automatic’ parent when the children want anything because I address things straight away, give them attention straight away and stay organised.
My husband probably does a lot more around the house and for the children than most do but I am a perfectionist and it has got me into bother before, I get very worked up if things don’t go to plan or are done ‘properly’ 😣 (something I need to work on).
My issue at the minute are school mornings and bedtimes.
Over the school holidays I started to teach especially my older son (10) to be more organised and independent knowing full well very soon I could be stuck to the couch breastfeeding a baby at these times. My 4 year old has started to dress himself, put his dirty clothes in the basket and do his own cereal (with some aid) in the mornings but needs some reminders to do these things which is understandable as he’s only four! (nearly 5). I told my husband how he can help more at these times but at the moment all I do is shout and nag and remind them all constantly what they need to do. Like I have to micromanage every part of these times or things get forgotten or they would be late for school unless I get involved.
Its leaving me so stressed. I get the uniform out the night before and my eldest son has a list he works off but still doesn’t do it all without verbal reminders.
My husband will lie in bed on his phone before getting up then be stressed that he’s running out of time for work/ school. Everyone leaves things lying around (that ‘they don’t see’).
I probably am unreasonable, like a chuffing Army Sargent. Maybe I need to let things go to sh*t and let them be late/ leave their homework/ leave with crusty milk on their faces just to prove a point. 😣