To think DH should not have woke me up

[Greengrassleaves]

And instead he should have dealt with DD himself. He woke me up at half 3 saying DD (6 years old) was lay in bed and crying and that he “couldn’t be bothered” to go and check she was ok but he expected me to. Obviously I did go to DD but just angry with DH for not being bothered about his own child

So, he's selfish, lazy, sexist, and doesn't give a shit about either you or his daughter.

Why are you still with him?

For the life of me, I cannot fathom why you've described him as 'd' h. Just why? He's horrible.
Why, why can so many women not see that they'd be better off single?

And so would their children.

Let me guess, if she is sick , you are expected to stay home and care for her?

Yes this is correct

I am leaving him, was actually speaking to a lawyer yesterday about how you get a divorce

This man does not love & respect you & is a shit father.
LTB

Why didn't you say it? He had no qualms passing the buck to you, why not call him out on it?

Probably just mixed up the buttons, I always expect them to be the other way round

That's good to hear!

So what does he do if your child cries at night and you are out working?

That's fantastic news op. The update. You and your dd will be blown away how much happier you are

I don’t have to leave if I get a call, I can work from my laptop

Great news.
It will be interesting to see how the parenting split will work.
I suspect he will be hands off.

My ex was like, always me that needed to look after the kids if they were sick despite working full time as well.

Oh of course. Despite me earning more and having a job with more responsibilities than ExH, I was always expected to stay home with sick DC too - can't be compromising Big Important Man jobs now, can we?

I’m glad to hear you’re leaving him.

considering what you’ve said and his attitude this morning I’m wondering if there’s any point speaking to him about it? He clearly thinks he has done no wrong and is unlikely to be convinced otherwise.

I would just use last night as an example of why you’re leaving. It is fact rather than discussion. Ie your behaviour last night was appalling and it is clear to me that being part of this family is optional to you, and for that reason I have had enough and want a divorce.

wishing you lots of luck and support x