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To feel like the world is ending and my life is crumbling?

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hungoverAF · 21/09/2022 14:53

Last night (yes a Tuesday night) my friend came over for dinner and drinks. Far too much wine was consumed and not enough food was eaten. I am so so hungover today and literally feel like crawling out of my skin. I am so depressed and anxious, I didn't even do anything wrong. Just yesterday I was feel hopeful about life and excited for the future. Today I feel scared, hopeless and generally negative about my future and a voice in my head keeps saying, 'you fucked up, you're not going to be able to reach your goals etc etc' (related to masters course I'm currently doing).

How can I go from feeling so happy yesterday to so miserable today? I usually get 2 day hangovers and I am in uni tomorrow. I have quite bad social anxiety especially sitting in a room with people I don't know too well and expected to contribute to a conversation. I have been managing quite well and was feeling motivated and proud of myself but today I just feel like I'll not be able to complete the course and that I've fucked everything up.

It really doesn't just feel like the hangover talking. AIBU and will this pass or have I fucked my life up??

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nirvanaviolet · 21/09/2022 14:54

Oh love. Life always seems harder when you're hungover. I swear you will feel okay again! This will pass!! Plenty of sleep, plenty of fluids and something to eat. You WILL feel better.

10HailMarys · 21/09/2022 14:58

It's the alcohol. Alcohol is a fairly powerful depressant. A crushing sense of misery and doom is quite common after heavy drinking and something I have experienced many times. It will pass.

sjxoxo · 21/09/2022 15:00

Alcohol is a well known depressive which explains your whole post! I would say try and keep it in perpective. Already you’ve got some good positives we can glean from your post… you’ve got at least one good friend, you enjoy a bit of fun, and you’re doing a masters! All of which are positives to life. I don’t have a masters and my friends don’t live near me anymore 😬 so don’t sink too far! Do something nice for yourself. Facemask, hair treatment nice shower, fake tan always works for me. Have a hearty healthy dinner and watch a film or read a good book.. tomorrow you’ll wake up feeling much better once it’s out of your system!! Xx

Beezknees · 21/09/2022 15:00

It's the hangover talking. Alcohol is a depressant. You'll be fine in a few days.

MrsMattMurdock · 21/09/2022 15:01

It's called Hangxiety....I think you just have to ride it out annoyingly.

GoneWithTheWine1 · 21/09/2022 15:01

Alcohol is a depressant. You'll be fine in a few days.

BlindGirlMcSqueaky · 21/09/2022 15:03

Alcohol is a depressant. We've all felt that nameless dread at some point or another.

The best thing is to concentrate on getting yourself rehydrated and your insulin levels stabilised by eating some delicious food. Don't worry about tomorrow or the future. That's for later you to worry about, when you are back at full strength.

IodineQueen · 21/09/2022 15:09

It’s your hangover. I haven’t been properly drunk since 2018 because I would feel like this afterwards. Shame, anxiety, self-loathing, paranoia about what I said/did, the lot. You just have to ride it out. Drink lots of water and eat as much as you can. Maybe consider cutting back on drinking if you’re getting two day hangovers. Have a glass of water for every glass of booze.

WestEnders · 21/09/2022 15:12

The Fear 😨

Unanananana · 21/09/2022 15:14

Beer Fear this used to be called in my uni days!

You'll be right as rain in a few days.

picklemewalnuts · 21/09/2022 15:19

Honestly it sounds as though you need to seriously restrict alcohol. A friend's husband attempted suicide -out of the blue- after drinking.

It just doesn't suit some people.

So the good news is- you'll feel better, ignore these feelings, they will go away. Hydrate, eat, sleep, it will get better.
Bad news- best to avoid more than the occasional glass!

Icanstillrecallourlastsummer · 21/09/2022 15:23

It's the alcohol of course. This is a commonly known side effect. It's one of the reasons I don't like to drink too much anymore, it's definitely got worse with age.

savemeagin · 21/09/2022 15:29

Beer fear. It's awful but most of us suffer from it after a good sesh. Drink lots (water not booze), try and get some solids down you, shower and go bed early. You'll feel much better tomorrow.

Aquamarine1029 · 21/09/2022 15:30

It is 100% the alcohol. It makes your anxiety so much worse.

MrsMo21 · 21/09/2022 15:41

I stopped drinking more than two drinks in a night for EXACTLY this reason. It’s the hangover talking. If you can, pop on some music and head out for a long walk, used to make me feel so much better when the doom struck.

DarceyG · 21/09/2022 15:42

hungoverAF · 21/09/2022 14:53

Last night (yes a Tuesday night) my friend came over for dinner and drinks. Far too much wine was consumed and not enough food was eaten. I am so so hungover today and literally feel like crawling out of my skin. I am so depressed and anxious, I didn't even do anything wrong. Just yesterday I was feel hopeful about life and excited for the future. Today I feel scared, hopeless and generally negative about my future and a voice in my head keeps saying, 'you fucked up, you're not going to be able to reach your goals etc etc' (related to masters course I'm currently doing).

How can I go from feeling so happy yesterday to so miserable today? I usually get 2 day hangovers and I am in uni tomorrow. I have quite bad social anxiety especially sitting in a room with people I don't know too well and expected to contribute to a conversation. I have been managing quite well and was feeling motivated and proud of myself but today I just feel like I'll not be able to complete the course and that I've fucked everything up.

It really doesn't just feel like the hangover talking. AIBU and will this pass or have I fucked my life up??

It’s just the beer fear, I get it if I drink heavily. I only tend to a few glasses of wine because I know I will feel doomed for days otherwise. You’ll be fine.

FelicityFlops · 21/09/2022 16:02

Totally agree with all PPs.
A further tip is to take a high-dose B12 vitamin tablet with plenty of water before you go to bed and repeat first thing in the morning.

PuddlesOnFire · 21/09/2022 16:08

10HailMarys · 21/09/2022 14:58

It's the alcohol. Alcohol is a fairly powerful depressant. A crushing sense of misery and doom is quite common after heavy drinking and something I have experienced many times. It will pass.

This basically, but also note that alcohol has a long term depressant affect, which is not something I was aware of once upon a time. I used to think it only impacted you when it was in your body, but that isn't the case, it alters the brain to the point where life without the drug of alcohol can seem very grey and bleak.

I spent thirty years drinking too much and now thankfully am tee total with no intention of ever drinking again. Sadly it took me far too long to realise it wasn't doing me any good.

But anyway, off my soap box, how you're feeling will pass and that "never again" promise will swiftly be forgotten.😉

Carmakomelian · 21/09/2022 16:14

This is why I stopped drinking, my morning after drinking experience went:
16-24: "I don't get hangovers"
25-29: Urg, head hurts, i'm tired, i need a fry up, when did drinking become so hard?
30+: Massive existential angst, anxiety and feelings of doom, on top of the worst headache and tiredness I've ever experienced. Why do I even exist? Why is life so pointless? Why I am I so shit?

bofski14 · 21/09/2022 16:34

The voice that says you can't do things is a lying bitch.

TastesLikeFlavourlessFizz · 21/09/2022 16:49

It’ll be the alcohol, OP. You’ll rally when the hangover passes.

Now, me…I have everything you have plus did/said many things wrong last night. So it will take longer to rally even when I can stand and eat again.

It was a work do and after getting too drunk at the party (didn’t eat), I ended up in a bar absolutely hammered with 2 new colleagues - 1 of whom I’d only just met. I was waffling nonsense and at 1am the brand-new-to-me one was feeding me chicken nuggets in the street. So you see, it could be worse.

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hungoverAF · 21/09/2022 16:53

Thank you everyone, you are all right I need to just get through it and eat and get an early night. Just such an awful feeling but you have given me hope that it's normal and will pass. I don't drink often...and I seem to forget just how bad the hangovers can be.

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hungoverAF · 21/09/2022 16:54

Carmakomelian · 21/09/2022 16:14

This is why I stopped drinking, my morning after drinking experience went:
16-24: "I don't get hangovers"
25-29: Urg, head hurts, i'm tired, i need a fry up, when did drinking become so hard?
30+: Massive existential angst, anxiety and feelings of doom, on top of the worst headache and tiredness I've ever experienced. Why do I even exist? Why is life so pointless? Why I am I so shit?

Haha this sounds accurate - just turned 30 this year 🤣

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hungoverAF · 21/09/2022 16:55

TastesLikeFlavourlessFizz · 21/09/2022 16:49

It’ll be the alcohol, OP. You’ll rally when the hangover passes.

Now, me…I have everything you have plus did/said many things wrong last night. So it will take longer to rally even when I can stand and eat again.

It was a work do and after getting too drunk at the party (didn’t eat), I ended up in a bar absolutely hammered with 2 new colleagues - 1 of whom I’d only just met. I was waffling nonsense and at 1am the brand-new-to-me one was feeding me chicken nuggets in the street. So you see, it could be worse.

Oh no!! Sounds like a fun night though? At least you didn't flash your tits and accuse your new boss of stealing your money which I have been guilty of many moons ago on a staff night out Blush

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TastesLikeFlavourlessFizz · 21/09/2022 16:59

hungoverAF · 21/09/2022 16:55

Oh no!! Sounds like a fun night though? At least you didn't flash your tits and accuse your new boss of stealing your money which I have been guilty of many moons ago on a staff night out Blush

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😂 Thanks for your kind words! I will treasure them throughout this long and doom-laden evening.

I did not flash my tits or accuse anyone of stealing so there is that! I’m quite senior in quite a sensible job though so I think I did quite enough even without those.

I think, like you, I’d just forgotten what this feels like as I rarely drink these days.

We’ll be ok. You definitely will. I might need to start a new life in Colombia. 🙂