We are on a break. We havent been getting on as life has become incredibly stressful for lots of different reasons.We had a massive barney and he bolted but came back to talk a week later.
He didn't respond to me at all during this time even though I pleaded to sort things out.
We met and spoke but again had a massive row.
We are deeply incompatible it seems.
I then met his exp of years.
She is lovely and asked how things were between me and P.
I told her things were bad and she seemed to have guessed that he did indeed ignore me and not respond until he was ready.
The similarities were eerie.
She described him as breaking her soul because he was cold and mean and unloving when they fought.
How she begged and pleaded for comms but none forthcoming until he decided.
One day, she had enough and knew it was over.
He then ran, begged and pleaded but to her great respect, she refused to have him back.
He broke down.
I met him a year later.
He said she was controlling and he was afraid of her.
She said she lost who she was when with him.
His actions right now seem to match her description of ignoring me until he is ready but he won't get any good from me when he does.
His ability to freeze me out is frightening. Unloving and absolute lack of empathy.