To think my ex-husband shouldn't have come to visit DD?

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Wenjie · 21/09/2022 10:01

I'm going to preface this by saying we're in the United States and she's at university. She just moved in and met the people she's living with, and classes start on Thursday. He texted her that SURPRISE he flew all the way to be with her and he's staying a week. This is just a bad time and she had plans.

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diddl · 21/09/2022 11:17

She should keep to any plans that she has (even if that is being alone) & see he when & if she wants to.

It strikes me as quite a selfish grand gesture on his part tbh.

Igmum · 21/09/2022 11:30

Wenjie · 21/09/2022 10:35

@Igmum Her university is on the quarter system so it starts later than most universities, on the semester system. So she just received her key 9/20 at 2pm and then five hours later he texted that he was springing a visit on her. Tomorrow she is going to walk around to find her classes ahead of time and then classes start on Thursday.

OMG! He is ridiculous and no wonder she is flustered. Yes, she will have to deal with it but it's nerve wracking enough starting in a new place, trying to understand new systems and make new friends without a dad you barely know foisting himself on her. She's right, anyone would be flustered.

Ein · 21/09/2022 11:39

What a dick he is. This is about sabotaging her attempt at independence.

Bet he was controlling when you were together.

Suggest she does not give him her address and meets him once for lunch.

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