to think ds is being singled out at school possibly because of his sexuality?

[smeeinit]

becuase i just cant get it out of my head and its driving me to distraction.

ds2 is 15 and gay,and since coming out 18months ago he has been constantly "picked" on by his year head for ridiculous things.

in the 2 weeks hes been back at school,his hairs wrong,his trousers are wrong (they are a bit frayed at bootom ) his shoes are wrong (smart black shoes with rubber sole ) his earring is wrong,even though he has written permission from the head to wear it.the list goes on and mostly to do with appearence.
ds is ALWAYS in school uniform,black trousers,white shirt,blazer and tie.hes always clean and well presented (hes gay,he looks after himself!) hes well behaved in class although struggles as he is severely dyslexic and ive never had any complaint about his behaviour.
so why is this teacher so set on making ds's last 2 months at school a misery over petty things?
AIBU to think this teacher could be a homophobe or am i an over sensitive mum?

And smee - he sounds lovely and brave

oh fletch thats awful your poor ds.

will do.......

oops wrong thread

i think teachers in secondary seem to have favs my ds left now but he came out in year 11 only ever had one incident (was called a poof) but did have unrelated to gay teacher nastyness my dd also now in year 10 teachers are really ooo to her at times one even slapped her !!!!!!!!!!!! my ds very happy now as yours only has a bit left it prob isnt worth getting into a debate with teacher just have to except some people are tossers

at your dd being slapped by a teacher

oh smee thats not the half of it but your boy will find his way you are prob more upset than him he will have prepared himself for shit flinging whereas you will be in protective mode. I still want to punch people for looking at my son when he dresses in a way that makes people stare and is 6foot3

Candifloss...but if he dresses in a ay that drws attention to himself.....isn't that what he wants?

oh yes definatly still difficult to walk down road with him and every one turns head

At school I always felt picked on, because I would be dragged up about silly things, liek earrings and hairstyles etc, whereas friends would never wear uniform and not be called on about it.

I felt terribly singled out, looking back I actually realsied that they ahd lost all hope with my friend that never wore uniform and had become rather exasperated with me and my seeming rebellion and were just trying to say something (I wasnt gay but was having a terribly hard time at home, so enotional issues were still there, which I would assume your DS has had some of, coming out at any time must be scary let alone at 15).

I think maybe you should have a word with this teacher, without your son present and bite your tongue wrt mentioning his sexuality, most homophobes, like racists etc are rather inept at hiding their true feelings, I would imagine he would slip up during conversation if it was wrt your sons sexuality.

candifloss "I still want to punch people for looking at my son when he dresses in a way that makes people stare"
you sound just like me!
ds couldnt give a shit if people look at him but i want to slap the lot of em!

meeting tomorrow and ive promised ds that i wont mention the "H" word so has anyone got any duck tape they can send me to put over my mouth?!!

really not looking forward to meeting i know im going to say something ive promised not to [scared emoticon]

good luck bite tongue do not say is it cos i is gay