Not giving ex new address

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We moved 3 hours away under the impression he was moving to the other end of the country. Happened in July. He's now decided he's staying where we was originally. I bring the kids up when I can and he sees them then. He's never been to us. Says he can't afford it though then went through our town on the train to go shopping with new gf.

Anyways he has with held the kids from me before. After agreeing a time for pick up. Made me leave work as he turned up at the old house when we was living there trying to take the kids. Shouting abuse ect. He's blackmailed me with nude pictures for months too. Has threatened me with violence.

Hes now throwing his latest tantrum that he dosent know our new address. I don't feel safe giving it out.

Aibu to not give our new address?

I would contact the police for advice, given the criminal threat of revenge porn.

Contact the police. I don't know what the legal position is for not giving him his own childrens' address but I'm pretty sure you wouldn't have to if he is a violent blackmailer.

There's no court order in place atm. Waiting for him to start the process like he said he's going to

I don't think there is much he can do, other than take you to court for an access agreement - and he probably won't bother. So don't give him your address, and do talk to the police. Ask to speak to the domestic abuse unit. You can also talk to Women's Aid.

Don't give him your address, especially given the history. Did you report any of it?

How old are your children? He might ask them for it?

I sadly didn't report any of it. I was too scared. Eldest is 12 and wants nothing to do with him. Then the boys are 5 and 3