DH calling me Ozzy Osbourne

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when I’ve been sitting for a while and stand up my joints are stiff and painful and I walk a little funny for a few seconds before I can straighten up properly. DH has said i look like Ozzy Osbourne and “Ozzy” is rapidly becoming my pet name over the more affectionate pet name he’s had for me for years.

We have the kind of relationship where we take the piss out of each other and call each other daft names - we’ve always done it but this one is hitting a nerve.

Im 41 and already starting to show many signs of aging, everything hurts, my skin is dry and dull, my hair is grey and falls out - there is a lot of arthritis in my family and I keep thinking if I’m like this now at 41, what on earth will I be like at 60??

I’ve laughed it off so far but I assumed he’d drop it after a while, he hasn’t and it’s now becoming my everyday name. BUT as I said, we’ve always called each other daft names and for me to suddenly say this is upsetting me is going to come across like I can give it but can’t take it.

I don’t want him to feel like he can’t have a laugh with me, it’s just this particular name as it’s focussed on something I’m already so self conscious about.

AIBU?

Just tell him you don’t like it and why! I’m sure he’ll stop. Have you seen your GP?

Banter is fun until it's not.

This is your husband - there's something not right if you can't tell him to stop doing something that upsets you. Just tell him.

also - HRT??? From a really cursory look at your OP, the dull skin/everything hurts might mean it's worth investigating.

Husband calling you Ozzy is not on though if you've told him it's something you are genuinely concerned about.

My DH shuffles around like a 90 year old. Really annoys me, he is 6 years older than me, 75, but I feel it is giving in to ageing. He is NEVER stiff so its not his joints. He is also pretty negative and grumpy.
I would try to not do it. I'm 69 and have been through various phases of 'oh, no I'm getting arthritis/ bad back, weak muscles through age etc etc etc But mostly they reduce enough to be ignorable.
I would say your DH doesn't like the thought that you are both ageing and a miserable painful old age is ahead. So keep up the exercise and stay positive.

You are very young to be suffering like this! Have you had tests for autoimmune disease? (Thyroid, Rheumatoid arthritis, etc…)

Please start calling him 'Sharon' through the house for every minor thing just like Ozzy does... Do it just right and it will get old fast for him.

Tell him to stop it, that you don’t like it. Why wouldn’t you?

And please go and see your GP. You are only 41 - this doesn’t sound like typical ageing and you definitely need to have it investigated.