To think this might be problematic drinking.

[Happywhenitrains7]

24 bottles of beer between Thursday evening and Monday morning drunk by my husband on his own?

Six bottles a day? Yanbu!

What size bottles?

330mls.

Then no

that just shy of 14 pints over 4 days.

not a lot for a regular drinker.

In isolation, not enough information to say. Most people I know can and often do easily drink three or four pints - the equivalent of 6 bottles) if out for an evening so it doesn’t strike me as particularly heavy drinking. Was he drunk? Too drunk to know where he was or what he was doing? Did he behave badly? Did he not manage to go to work?

How big are the bottles, what sort of beer?

He was slurring last night and denied he’s had too much to drink. He’s not nice when he drinks either. When I met him he don’t drink at all. It crept in I’m not sure when but we are both very unhappy but his drinking is making it worse because I he makes me nervous when he’s like that and he’s quick to pick arguments , to be defensive and also sorry for himself. He has weeks where he doesn’t drink anything or just one beer a night but more often it’s like this. I don’t know if this is a worrying pattern. I’m very unhappy in the marriage but I don’t know whether this is an issue genuinely.

Regular bottles but on his own. Yes he isn’t nice when he’s drunk- argumentative , sorry for himself etc or letchy .

Then that’s the problem, rather than the amount drunk. If you’re both unhappy in the marriage and he becomes nasty when drunk, sounds like it’s time to end things.

What size are the bottles? It's the weekend and a long one so I'd say no. What does he drink normally?

It's Bank Holiday weekend. I only drink on a sat night but I admit I have had a gin every night since Friday! Not usual for me though. Is it normal for him? Is he drunk?

Well its problematic in that it is impacting his behaviour and his marriage (ie making you unhappy/unhappier/more anxious). He is getting drunk (slurring) and it is above the recommendied maximum -guessing around 40-60 units? So it may not currently be affecting him physically, but if this continues it will increase the risk of physical health issues eg blood pressure, stroke etc, as well as increasing his risk of accidental injury.

But on top of that you say his drinking has increased, and and you are both unhappy. In that situation he might well go on increasing his intake, and he risks dependency even if he isn't dependent currently. And once he is dependent, that is a whole world of pain for both of you.

My advice is for you to address your own unhappiness as an individual, work out what you want and indeed, what you need, and act accordingly. I assume to stay in the marriage you need for you both to take active steps to sort out your unhappiness (individually, and any problems in your marriage), and for him to sort out his drinking. Otherwise the only way for you to improve things for yourself, will be to leave.

You cannot do anything about his drinking or his individual unhapiness. So if he won't, you may need to let him go.