This is the first time I have posted in a long time.. but I wanted to know if I was being unreasonable because I am finding it hard to justify my reasons why I want to cut my parents out of my life.
I am in my late 20s with a 8 year old DD. I recently moved out of my parents house and I have done a lot of thinking about my life and my upbringing and I have come to the realisation that my relationship with my parents isn’t great, or “normal”.
My whole upbringing I have felt unloved and like I am nuisance for my parents. Their involvement with my DD feels too much at times and they are very opinionated about how I am bringing her up, almost like they feel like they are her parents and whatever I say or do isn’t right or good enough for them.
It feels like I would be here forever typing the things I have experienced so I will just bullet point some of the things.
- my mother suffered with depression so often I was left to take care of myself from a young age. Dad was either working or wasn’t bothered about looking after me.
- Was allowed to go out at all hours walking around the streets from a young age
- School wasn’t a big deal. They weren’t fussed if I went or not
- my dad would repeatedly lose his temper and would often punch holes in the wall or doors
- we were very poor as a family so food wasn’t great and we often had no electricity or power cuts
- I didn’t receive any love from them. I feel like I was neglected in that department
- they never celebrated my achievements. For example, passing my driving test, getting through college with a young DD, getting into university, my massive weight loss or getting my own place.
These are only some of the reasons why so if you need anything else then I am happy to go into more. As I said I would be here all day or this post would be massive.
Thank you for reading this and I am happy to talk more about it if you need more.