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Original poster

To go away without DH?

36 replies

Spicycurry · 18/09/2022 19:45

I know a lot of people say they do/would do this but not sure.

DH doesn’t have any holiday left until next year. I don’t work Thursdays and Fridays and have friends in NI I’d like to see. Wondering about going to see them with DS maybe in November.

Would you?

OP posts:
HouseOfRunners · 18/09/2022 19:46

Of course, have a wonderful time 😊

Mumdiva99 · 18/09/2022 19:46

Yes. Of course.

Alpineyog · 18/09/2022 19:46

Why wouldn't you?

During my Mat leaves I went away a lot without DH, I had a whole year off and he had 35 days

So couldn't go away often, i on the other hand travelled every other month

Make the most of it while you can and enjoy yourself in NI!

Daysy · 18/09/2022 19:47

Why wouldn’t you?

Mumdiva99 · 18/09/2022 19:47

... as long as you can afford it. And you aren't leaving DH to work overtime or similar to pay for your to go away.

Original poster
Spicycurry · 18/09/2022 19:50

I suppose I mostly feel guilty about taking DS away from his dad for four days, and vice versa.

OP posts:
Inklingpot · 18/09/2022 19:59

Why not? I sometimes go and see family and friends without DH. Likewise, he’s just got back from a weekend doing an outing hobby without me.

Leeds2 · 18/09/2022 20:03

I wouldn't have any issue with doing this.

You say you feel a bit guilty for taking DS away from his dad for 4 days..How does DH feel about you going? Does he take time away for, for example, stag dos or hobby activities, holidays with the lads etc?

Luredbyapomegranate · 18/09/2022 20:05

Absolutely - have weekends and weeks away with friends or going on yoga weekend type things quite often

Why wouldn’t you?

Luredbyapomegranate · 18/09/2022 20:07

Spicycurry · 18/09/2022 19:50

I suppose I mostly feel guilty about taking DS away from his dad for four days, and vice versa.

Not to be snarky OP but that makes zero sense - apart from the fact they have 18 years to spend together, why wouldn’t your DP want your son to have the experience of travelling to NI to meet new people - if he doesn’t, he should. And why would your son not want an adventure if he has you with him? Also, FaceTime

Testina · 18/09/2022 20:13

Honestly, it’s a bit worrying that you even ask.

Redglitter · 18/09/2022 20:14

Spicycurry · 18/09/2022 19:50

I suppose I mostly feel guilty about taking DS away from his dad for four days, and vice versa.

Its four DAYS he's not going to give it a second thought. A lot of parents are away longer than that with work

custardbear · 18/09/2022 20:20

Blimey I do this regularly! Tomorrow my and DD are going to a spa hotel overnight leaving DS&DH
We have one Ty of trips together of course too

Yeahrepublic · 18/09/2022 20:21

I do this all the time. It's only 4 days, they'll both cope.

torquewench · 18/09/2022 20:33

I'm currently away celebrating a milestone birthday for 6 days with 7 of my friends, all of whom have left their DP or DH + offspring at home. Their other halves all do the same. Its good to have time apart, absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that....

tickticksnooze · 18/09/2022 20:35

Spicycurry · 18/09/2022 19:50

I suppose I mostly feel guilty about taking DS away from his dad for four days, and vice versa.

With kindness, you're being ridiculous. Go on the extremely short holiday.

Coybubbles · 18/09/2022 20:36

Why wouldn’t you?!

Hbh17 · 18/09/2022 20:37

Of course! Who is even going to notice, if it's only for 4 days?

kimchifox · 18/09/2022 20:39

4 days? I'm sure your DH will cope - & DS will be excited to go away! Last year my DH took 2 Dcs on holiday for a week and I stayed behind to make sure the other DC could do something - timings didn't work for us all to go away - it's life. I'm sure your DH will be happy that you and DS can have a little trip.

Maria1982 · 18/09/2022 20:39

Spicycurry · 18/09/2022 19:50

I suppose I mostly feel guilty about taking DS away from his dad for four days, and vice versa.

I know what you mean (currently also in mat leave , have family abroad), but honestly 4 days is not that long, it will be a good experience for you and your son.

FlissyPaps · 18/09/2022 20:40

If you can afford it, then go!!!

Don’t worry about taking your DS away from his dad for 4 days …. I’m sure both will be fine.

DappledThings · 18/09/2022 20:42

Of course go. Why wouldn't you? It's 4 days, it's nothing.

HeadacheEarthquake · 18/09/2022 20:42

What's the problem? Go! Have a ball!

SingingSands · 18/09/2022 20:42

Yes, absolutely fine. DH and I have done loads of trips alone with the kids over the years (school holidays are long and we used to split our leave to maximise childcare). The kids enjoy the trip, they are strangely better behaved with only parent around and everyone has a great time. With mobiles it's hardly like you're uncontactable - we usually FaceTime or phone and send WhatsApp messages/photos.

Would this be the first time you'd be away from your DH?

jamtomorrow1 · 18/09/2022 20:53

My husband enjoys having a break (no childcare, watch rubbish on TV etc) if I take our son away for a couple of days so perhaps yours would feel the same?