Child’s party?

[Countrylifemama]

my son is turning 5 in Oct and so is another little girl in his class. I spoke to the mum back in June/July as we both mentioned maybe doing a joint while class party…. Now she said she’d ping me and look at ideas but didn’t get back to me and tbh I didn’t either as I presumed she wasn’t interested

I then spoke to another mum who’s friends with her month back and she said oh yes that mum is thinking you’re doing a joint 😩

so thinking I misunderstood I messaged to ask if she wanted too and sent suggestions but unfortunately places got booked up by then anyways we’ve now decided as we can’t find anything so last minute for number of kids not too and they said said they’ll do party next year and family thing this year

question is if I do end up doing a small party rather than whole year does it look bad? As we have mutual mum friend so she will know… I just feel awkward now… my son is friends her little girl so I know would want to invite her if I was too-

im getting so anxious about this and don’t want to annoy anyone so early on when he’s just started big school

will it create awkwardness or animosity so early on in reception? What would you do?

I don’t see that the problem is in the slightest - she has decided to do a family party and you are going to do a small party yourself.

Do whatever you can afford and invite who you like.

You have already approached the other parent and she has ignored you. If she moans point out to others you messaged her in good time and she didn't get back to you.

No problem at all- you tried, couldnt find a place and she has decided on a family party.
Doesnt mean your child needs to either miss out on a party OR invite that child.
Try not to feel stressed- it didn’t work out and now you can “peacefully” (if that can be a word to describe a 5yr olds party 😂) plan your own.

I wouldn't stress about this. I'd invite the little girl and say jokingly to the mum 'if you'd still like to do a big joint party next year, hopefully we can get ourselves into gear a bit earlier and get something sorted!" You're hardly snubbing her/her DD if you're planning to invite the child.