I guess some people here are familiar with the Meetup group/app.
I live in a big city and I'm really looking to make friends, there was one happening in a big café that I like so I decided to not rsvp but to go along and see from afar what it was like.
I then noticed it had said 'fun and dating' in the title.
I got there and it was 7 men and one woman (probably all under 30)
I think that put me off, though I'm sure they were perfectly nice. I have a partner so not looking for dating, but aside from that I've always found male friendships hard to navigate.
I'm sure there are and will be plenty of men who have zero interest in me and there have been, but I've definitely been unlucky with male friendships. I have had one who seemed completely platonic but he just drifted sadly.
The ones I had, most of them didn't want me as a girlfriend but made it clear they wouldn't say no to sex and found me attractive.
I thought I was becoming good friends with an ex school mate who had a long term partner, until he messaged me at 2am saying "You being single is a waste".
I told him it was inappropriate and don't speak to him anymore.
However I'm sure I've massively over thought things and maybe should give this group a chance?
If it's got dating in the title though and is predominantly men, I'm not sure if they'd have the same expectations.