to think my brother and my dad should have remembered ds's birthday?

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This is a real question, AIBU? Because it's eating away at me a bit. I'm really sad that neither of them sent even a card for ds's 4th. My Dad didn't send a Christmas card either, but I know he was upset with me for not inviting him to ours for Christmas, and I can see where he's coming from on that one.

The thing is that I'm rubbish, totally rubbish at birthdays. My brother and I have stopped bothering with each others'. I usually do manage a card at least to my Dad, but a few years ago I got the date wrong by over a month (I'd actually mixed it up with my brother's) and I have a feeling I may have forgotten it this year.

but in my defence I have never forgotten my two nieces' birthdays - not anything to be proud of but IMO pretty much the minimum auntly relationship.

Do you have relatives like me who are crapola at birthdays but expect cards for their children? I do remember my mum and sister's birthdays without all this angst, but then I just generally have better relationships with them.

so AIBU?

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YANBU families are fraught with danger IMHO. Get a birthday book.
(my SIL is like this NEVER NEVER remembers any of my dcs birthdays, we are from a small family so I find it really sad.)
It really doesn't take that much effort!
Could always give them pre-filled in birthday books next Christmas

my three brothers never send cards to my dc's

lazy feckers

My parents are like this. But then, they never send cards to DD or DS when they're mad at me over some imagined slight. I've given up trying to understand them.

YANBU to be upset, but with the exception of DH or mums (i.e. my mum and MIL), i dont expect anyone to remember bday, anniversay or DS's bday.
I have never received anything from my father and am lucky to get a phonecall from my brother. It actually doesnt upset me at all - they love me, they are just totally rubbish at stuff like this.