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eBay seller constantly arguing after item not received

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PhilipHues · 18/09/2022 09:29

I agreed a price for a low value, second hand item of clothing with a seller on eBay, and paid instantly, including the postage.

I expected dispatch in a couple of working days, as stated (as it was about 7pm), but it was marked as dispatched around midnight.

Ten days later, I queried where the item was, as I'd had no tracking. I'm aware of Royal Mail strikes, but I wanted to be able to see if there was a specific delay.

The seller announced that the item has been sent immediately, returned to her a few days later (???), and posted again a few days before I got in contact. She then updated the dispatch to the day of communication with me. I then received tracking which clearly showed she'd gone out to the post office a few hours after my message, still missing the cut off for last collection on a Friday before the bank holiday weekend, and hastily deposited it with Royal Mail, so if was just in the system.

She can't show the original tracking, despite saying she'd be happy to prove it. Then accused me of providing the wrong address, causing the return. I can't fathom why a strike would mean staff too busy to get the item to me, but easily able to deliver to sender. Then she told me she'd paid the postage twice, so I owed her a second lot, especially as item was so low priced in the first place. No acknowledgement that I'd paid what was agreed and had nothing to show for it.

When I asked why she didn't tell me she'd received if back, double check the address with me or even tell me she needed more postage at the time, she stated that she'd sent it to me days ago, which just isn't true.

She decided I was trying to scam her and that it would be impossible for the item not to be received now there were tracking details. I have no proof the number she's given me is even my item to my address.

She's now demanding I return the item, knowing full well I don't have it, and not understanding that I actually wanted to buy it, just was concerned as to where if was, and she has no right to request this. She has sent me about 30 separate messages since Friday evening, the latest telling me she could easily get more for it with no problem!

eBay can't step in until Thursday, due to the bank holiday. Do I have to put up with these messages and emails until then?!

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Acheyknees · 18/09/2022 09:32

I just reply that you've reported to ebay and leave them to resolve.

Doyoumind · 18/09/2022 09:34

Just ignore her. If you haven't got it she won't have POD so has no claim. If it ever arrives, you've paid for it fair and square and she has no claim.

Suckitupboyo · 18/09/2022 10:44

Raise an item not recieved case with eBay. Do not pay any additional/second lot of postage. All emails should then go via the case. You can do this online so no problem with Bank Holidays etc

lljkk · 18/09/2022 14:20

OP's pernicketiness about the precise time the item was actually or marked dispatched sounds weird. It is in fact easy on eBay to have a billing address that is different from delivery address, for buyers not to know they have 2 different addresses listed and for sellers to get caught out by sending to wrong one. I don't know how OP knows when cut off for last collection was in sender's area.

OP will win the not Received case regardless. Make sure to ask eBay to block all comms from this seller in future. Sending 30 messages is bonkers.

Seller harassment can be reported here.

eldora · 18/09/2022 14:26

lljkk · 18/09/2022 14:20

OP's pernicketiness about the precise time the item was actually or marked dispatched sounds weird. It is in fact easy on eBay to have a billing address that is different from delivery address, for buyers not to know they have 2 different addresses listed and for sellers to get caught out by sending to wrong one. I don't know how OP knows when cut off for last collection was in sender's area.

OP will win the not Received case regardless. Make sure to ask eBay to block all comms from this seller in future. Sending 30 messages is bonkers.

Seller harassment can be reported here.

I sell quite a bit on eBay and I have never come across a billing address and a delivery address for a buyer.

eBay always presents me with the buyer’s address,

It is really is idiot proof, I can’t blame OP for being fed up and exasperated with this woman.

MinervaTerrathorn · 18/09/2022 14:32

eldora · 18/09/2022 14:26

I sell quite a bit on eBay and I have never come across a billing address and a delivery address for a buyer.

eBay always presents me with the buyer’s address,

It is really is idiot proof, I can’t blame OP for being fed up and exasperated with this woman.

I ordered something to be sent directly to someone else, such as a book they had on their birthday list for a family member two hours away. I have also occasionally had things sent to my DGM's house as she has a more secure porch than mine and is almost always in anyway.

eldora · 18/09/2022 14:36

@MinervaTerrathorn sure, I’m not saying you can only have one delivery address, I’m saying eBay will only present the relevant address to the seller, to avoid confusion,

user1471457751 · 18/09/2022 14:40

@eldora that's not my experience. Granted I've only sold once on ebay but I had to contact the buyer as i could see 2 addresses listed and wasn't sure which one to use.

amylou8 · 18/09/2022 14:45

Ignore her. Escalate the case to eBay as soon as you can. Unless she can provide tracking that shows delivery to your address you'll get a refund.

eldora · 18/09/2022 14:55

user1471457751 · 18/09/2022 14:40

@eldora that's not my experience. Granted I've only sold once on ebay but I had to contact the buyer as i could see 2 addresses listed and wasn't sure which one to use.

Hmm, bizarre. I’ve never come across that. I have made hundreds of sales and always post 1 or 2 days after winning bid.

lljkk · 18/09/2022 19:21

I have never come across a billing address and a delivery address for a buyer.

Lucky you. Only happened to me, finally, recently. Ebay makes zero apologies about sending 2 different addresses. I'm supposed to know the problem exists and the sale was entirely at my loss.

lljkk · 18/09/2022 20:35

nuts, meant to quote 1st line of last post

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