To not want to go out?

[Bishbashmash]

So DH goes out frequently on nights out etc and over the past few weeks I have raised the issue and said we need more family time. He thinks I am jealous of him because he goes out a lot, I have a good group of friends and usually all get together a few times a year, I am happy with that and don’t really feel the need to do more, I see friends regularly for catch ups with the kids. I am really not jealous of DH, I just think he should want to spend more time at home? Is that unreasonable? I have done my partying in my 20’s pre kids and not really interested anymore, if I would want to do anything, it would be to book a hotel room by myself, watch rubbish TV and get a Chinese, have I gone boring?

You are NBU to not want to go out, but your DH is also not BU to want to go out. You wanting to stay home all the time shouldn’t mean that he has to as well.

Neither of you are necessarily being unreasonable - but you might just want different things

You do need to make sure you have some family time yes, but then on other days if he wants to party a bit and you want to do something a bit quieter that's ok

Am a bit 'what?!' About your comment you did your partying in 20s. Is that it?! We still both party in 40/50s

When you see you friends regularly for catch ups with the kids - is that on evenings/weekends because your husband is out having fun and left you as default childcare or is it because you are a SAHM and he is at work? Because if you get to see your friends all the time because you don't work it's really unfair to say he shouldn't get the same opportunities