real changes need to be made in regard to how child abuse is dealt with, so this thread is to try and bring together ideas on how that could work.
I dont mean to generalise every abuse case, because I know they can be different. So I am referring to particular ones, where what I say applies, IYSWIM.
I can see why social services insist that they have to try and fix problems at home first, before a child is eligible for help to leave because they only have so many resources, and want to give them to the worst off. But it doesn't take much thought to predict how a parent would react to their child, when they are notified that the child has told people about how things are at home, or otherwise given it away. And the parent obviously has to be told at some point. That child then has to face their parent every day at home, which can feel very scary and lonely for them.
certain types of abusive behaviour is typically ingrained into the parent, and they have probably been doing it for a long time. From disorders that they have, to abuse they suffered as a child themselves that they've passed on. The parent is unlikely to stop quickly or at all, because some official person has told them not to. The incentive has to come from the parent, and a number of them dont have the incentive, or dont have or wont have the resources that would enable them to for a long time if ever
That sort of parent is then given more time to abuse their child and learn ways to cover it all up. Parents are given chance after chance long term and these children are never hearing the end of it and some are even dying. People in romantic relationships are given the resources to leave, and no chances are given to their partners, because abuse is abuse. Why are adults dealt with in this way and immediately given the resources to leave when suffering even emotional abuse when they report it? If they are slapped, they can leave immediately and report the partner and get them arrested. People tell them it can escalate. If a child is slapped, it is dealt with a lot less seriously. Time is given for that abuse to escalate. There must be something I dont know, because why are children are not given these resources and can even face physical abuse and are still not removed? They are far less likely to be able to leave than an adult, so in my opinion, those resources should be prioritised for children.