Sibling presents on birthdays

[wowmummy]

I've got another thread on here about half birthday and the topic of 'sibling presents' came up.

For me I told my mum and DHs mum to not bring extra presents for the other kids when it's birthdays. They have their own day to celebrate and make a fuss of. I kind of think the presents should just be for the birthday child. Just because it's the one day of the year that's theirs.

No right or wrong but what does everyone else do and why?

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Presents for birthday child only

I agree with you, I think it should just be a present for the bday child. Unfortunately my family don't agree and still bring something small for the other kids which wrecks my head.

Was surprised when my SIL bought something for her second son on the first one’s birthday.

I only have the one so never been an issue, but I think it’s madness.

My sister always gives one present to one of her children when it’s the others bday- I’ve always said this is ridiculous

I've got twins so not an issue 😂 but I have never heard of this, that's mad

When I was a child, on mine or my siblings' birthdays, the birthday child also had to buy their siblings a small gift. Obviously it was paid for by my parents and was only small (£5-10). It encouraged us not to be selfish and to think of our siblings on our birthday, when we were getting many other presents. I will definitely be continuing this when I have children

I do birthday child presents only but my in-laws have always done sibling presents which I thought was absolutely batshit but it wasn't a fight I could be arsed getting into so let it slide - they still do it & DD2 will be 21 in November

I do this, and so did my parents: one small present for the other sibling. It's nice, it helps avoid jealousy and helps them to be excited for the other one's birthday. I have discouraged my parents from doing it too, though, because that's too much. Whatever works for you is great.

Birthday child gets gift any siblings will have their own bdays.

My parents used to do this and now they do it for my DS and his cousin. They even did it on my dad's birthday last month (we happened to all be together on the day). It's just a little token thing and I think it's rather nice.

We did this, something small like a colouring book or stickers.
It stopped DD2 wanting all DD1's presents and kept her occupied.
We only did it until DD2 was old enough to understand better, so maybe until she was 4or 5.

Something I will never understand. If it’s your birthday you get presents. If it isn’t you don’t. Surely it’s that simple? Too many parents pussyfoot around their children afraid of upsetting them. Absolutely ridiculous.