To feel sad on the eve of my birthday

[Poppins17]

It’s my birthday tomorrow.

My Husband has bought me a watch (step count one I chose myself for £20) which has been put on the dining room table since it arrived a couple of days ago and my parents have bought me some face cream which is in a gift bag open with my card in… so I’ve realised I have nothing to actually unwrap.

It sounds really materialistic, but it’s not that, it just makes me feel sad that I make so much effort for everyone else and always make sure whoever’s birthday it is they have something to open even if it’s just a couple of small things but no one has thought about me like that.

Perhaps it’s a sign of me getting old, which makes me feel even sadder. I’m feeling quite emotional.

I’m just being silly, sorry - just needed to get it out of my head.

Happy birthday!
It is neither childish or silly. You are important and your feelings are valid.
Enjoy your lunch and insist on wrapped gifts next year! X

Hey happy birthday! 😀

hope you have a wonderful day and that your lunch is absolutely fab!

And no you don’t come across as silly and childish. Sometime you need to talk to your husband about this that you do appreciate him and his hard work but you like to be made a fuss of sometimes. Not now on your birthday but sometime when he’s relaxing and not full of work. But I do hope you have a great day. You deserve it! 😍

I personally dont operate in a world where expecting something more than a lump of coal for your birthday is viewed as childish. Presents ( plural) are always wrapped, there’s always homemade cake and usually a meal out somewhere nice. Men are perfectly capable of doing all those things …. Including that cake they just choose not to.

Happy Birthday by the way. 🎂

Bless you. This is so familiar to me. Some years, there was no present at all from DH whilst I still tried to be a good example and did it right. It was only when I stopped giving presents and responded "I thought we didn't do presents any more" that he stepped up and became quite good at gifts. It's in the past tense because he's got dementia now and no longer knows when my birthday is. We're going out for our anniversary on Wednesday and he's convinced that it's my birthday meal (I was born in March) :(

Happy birthday BTW! x