Feels like everyone else is out but I'm in tonight

[Scatmanfarm]

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I'm at home tonight, partially by choice and partially because I have a small social circle. I couldn't think of anything worse than getting ready (a good 45 mins) then going out to a noisy bar/restaurant right now. But, at the same time I'm looking at old flames (old dates mainly, not necessarily boyfriends) on fbook and looking at what they've been doing for the past week or so. I've seen them tagged in nice bars/restaurants in London etc and I just feel deflated. Not because I wasn't with them but because it feels like everyone else is having a good time/going out except me. I went out last night with friends. I have a partner to go out with. He's in with me tonight. We have the cash to go where ever we want (within reason).
I think it's FOMO. It just feels like everyone else's lives are so much more interesting/ have more going on than me even though I often like just being at home/not going out, I've had some fantastic holidays this year (3), I do go out when I CBA.

Is this just FOMO ?

SM stalking can you you to a world of feelings of like shit. Remember if you do look people up 99% of them will be living the dream on fbk/twitter etc but the reality is just as dull as so many of us

Don't be stupid. There is no need to be out all the time to have interesting life

I also think the crux of this could be attributed to the fact that on paper we have a very good joint income but in reality we never seem to have enough to do all of what we want. I can't seem to fathom where it all goes despite going through bank statements. We fritter it away on "stuff" I guess, but I can't seem to understand what that "stuff" is

I've had some fantastic holidays this year (3),

Presumably that’s what some of your money was frittered away on?

I don't get it. If you want to go out, go out. It's like, ten to seven.

I've never understood looking at pictures of people doing mundane basic things like sitting in a bar and you feeling sad you are also not sat in a bar, when the solution is... go sit in a bar.

Get off social media and enjoy your evening in. Cook a nice meal, maybe have a bath or watch a movie. Enjoy your DP’s company. Don’t waste your evening scrolling through other people’s edited highlights, you know it will always make you feel shit.

I am in my pjs and chomping on crisps as can't be bothered to cook.
I doubt very much that everyone has a wonderful.life.
Mine is ok but plenty of challenges including health issues and two breavements in the last 3 yrs- one my partner's suicide. Despite this I know I am better off than some people

Are you bored with your partner?
The combination of wanting to do something for the sake of it rather than stay in, looking back at old flames with nostalgia for the excitement and throwing your limited budget at buying yourselves a good time, suggests that you might find him less than scintillating company in his own right.

Why do you need 45 minutes to get ready ? Jeans, t-shirt -> pub

Nights out except meals or bingo I loathe so glad I never have to do this stuff again.

Comparison is the thief of joy. Just stop. Not everyone's out.

Ooh love that, comparison is the thief of joy. Going to use that gem🙂

Well I'm at home with three dc. 🙋🏻‍♀️

Dh has gone out with his brothers , and we are having a chilled one at home.

I'm going to take the dc to our lovely local burger diner in abit.

Then back home for bed for the youngest and the rest of us can chill.

Can you order a nice takeaway op, or go out to eat somewhere locally ?

Ok then.

Poor you, what a problem to have. You sound like a whining 18 year old that’s been told she can’t go out …. Get a grip. If this is your biggest issue right now then your doing better then most

I'm home too OP, albeit with toddler and 21 weeks pregnant so can't have a huge amount of fun.

Avoid social media and enjoy lovely time in with your partner.

If it helps I'm delighted to be home tonight.

We are home and delighted to be here. I prefer going out at lunchtime.

My heart bleeds for you.

Hope you have a lovely weekend

I know right 👍🏻

Boo fucking hoo

@Spanielsarepainless I think I'm you! A lovely lunch and drinks out is my idea of heaven. Then pyjamas and dressing gown in evening in front of tv....especially now nights are drawing in. Heaven!

My absolutely perfect Friday night is to meet my OH on the way home from work in our lovely local for two drinks. Always two, no idea why, go home and cook a nice dinner while either chatting or he cooks while I have a nice bath. Then watch gogglebox and Graham Norton then go to bed. I love it.

I go out and do other things in other nights but that, for me is the perfect Friday.