Pushy teacher

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I’m in another country where school starts at 6. My son is 4 and has some health issues…lots of visits to the doctors/hospitals etc. I signed him up for pre school for a few hours, a couple of mornings per week, had a meeting with the head and class teacher about this and gave them the doctors notes and recommendations for part time etc. During the meeting, the head was fantastic, agreed to everything and said they’d be flexible.
He’s now been for three mornings and is ok, doesn’t love it, would rather be at home 🤣(lots of kids would) but he’s ok and I’m happy with how things are going.
He’s only just started but each time when I come to pick him up, the class teacher keeps saying about him coming daily, saying to Ds ‘You’ll come tomorrow, yes’
She said today that she’d see us on Monday (not one of the days we arranged he’d be in anyway) and I said we’re not in and we also have blood tests that morning. She made some other chit chat and at the end said to come after the blood tests 🤷🏻‍♀️
What would you do? Should I make an appointment with the head to emphasise again the schedule we made?
Bearing in mind, it’s not compulsory they go to pre school, but I’d like him to have some time there where possible and this arrangement suits us perfectly.

So it's not exactly school, it's daycare.

It's not in any way in her interests to have your child there more mornings. Her job will be easier with fewer children in. So she's being pushy because she believes it's in your child's interests to go every day. She may feel that they will be more settled if they follow the same routine as the other children.

@JazbayGrapes Pre school

@BishyBarnyBee Yes, I understand that (ex teacher) and in an ideal world, that would happen, but this is the arrangement and surely is fine for Ds

Good for her but not really her place to do that when her parents and the head of the school have discussed this particular child's needs and agreed how that can be balanced with pre-school attendance.

In my experience with an SEN child various people in education and healthcare will process to know your child better than you and their more knowledgeable and senior colleagues/organisations and try to go against agreements and EHCPs etc.

Get prepared for a lifetime of having to assertively advocate for your child!

In the first instance, could you ask the class teacher why she keeps saying this as the agreement with the pre-school is that your son attends on x, x and x days due to his health needs and is unable to attend daily. Does she not recall the discussion/agreement? That might prompt her to remember if she has forgotten or provide an explanation as to why she keeps asking.

If you are unhappy with what she says, yes I'd go to the head but in a gentle way asking for the agreement to be reinforced with staff. You need these people to remain on side and you will need to pick your battles with them. It sounds like the head is on board but this isn't being followed through by the class teacher so should be easily resolved 🤞

@TooHotToRamble I’m curious as to why?
It was discussed that in the future if things got better health wise and he was doing well…but not three days in?!

It feels v dismissive